Most of us don't think of ourselves as needing anger management -- even those of us who really do. It's easy to think the person who with anger problems is the out of control guy, like the Adam Sandler character in the movie Anger Management, or Charlie Sheen (the real one, not his TV show character). Wouldn't it be helpful if there was a quick and easy anger management test?
It's important to understand that anger management treatment isn't just for those with extreme anger problems. Sure many of the men I treat have had some pretty bad episodes of anger -- throwing their kid across the room, chasing down another driver until they pull over, punching holes in walls, getting arrested for domestic violence, etc. But there are other men (and women) who I help with anger that have just come to the realization that their anger controls them more than they control their anger, and they want that to change. These people take the anger management test below and answer, true.
Here's a post I wrote on our social media pages a while back. It's a humorous admissions quiz to determine if you need anger management classes.
Can you relate to this statement about people pissing you off? If so, this could be a sign that taking a class for anger management would be a good thing for you. Anger is a normal feeling we all feel. The important question about anger is not whether we have it or not, because we all do, but rather how out of your control is our anger.
One of the things this test for anger management reveals is the belief that the solution to anger lies outside of us. Another words, if my wife, or supervisor, or kids would just stop doing something I wouldn't be angry. Unfortunately, we cannot change other people, so there must be another answer. There is. In anger management classes we learn how to change ourselves, the only thing we really can control, rather than other people.
Focusing on other people pissing us off is a common problem for those of us with anger problems. Many men are like a guy I'm treating right now, Wes, who says the only person who makes him angry is his wife. He says nobody can push his buttons like her and when they fight they have some real "doozies." Another guy I'm working with, Juan, says it's his 3 kids that are always pissing him off (and, of course, his wife can do it too).
Here's my simple Anger Management Test: Do you agree or disagree with the following? "I don't need anger management. I need people to stop pissing me off."
Are you like Wes and Juan, and believe you just need (certain) people to stop pissing you off? If you agree with this anger management test question, then learning how to manage anger would be a really good thing for you. If you disagree, then before you dismiss this whole thing ask someone else what they think. Since denial is another common problem for those with anger issues, give this anger test to a couple of people who really know you and tell them you want them to be completely honest with you.
The purpose of this anger management test is to discover the truth about ourselves, not to prove we don't need anger management. Remember, there's nothing wrong with getting angry. Anger is only a problem when we let it control us rather than us controlling it, or when we deny we even have a problem with anger.
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