What if my husband or wife won't go to counseling? We get asked this all the time. A lot of people are in this situation. If your husband or wife won't go to counseling, go without them. We can still work with you and equip you with tools you can use at home with your spouse.
If you're a woman and your husband won't go to counseling, we've found that a lot of guys will come to counseling only after their partner shows them how serious they are by going without them. Some men want to come in after their wife goes so they can tell their side of the story or to set the counselor straight about the truth. Some men take longer to come around and agree to come after they see that they can't stop their wife.
If you're a guy and your wife won't go to counseling, it may be that she wants you to prove you really will go to counseling and start make some changes before she'll come with you. Almost all women want to go to counseling, so if she's refusing right now that will probably change. Just focus first on making some changes with yourself. Once your wife sees firsthand the difference that counseling is making for you, she will most definitely agree to join you at your next session.
Whatever your circumstance, if your husband or wife won't go to counseling, you can go to marriage counseling or couples counseling alone and still change your relationship. Or consider individual counseling -- take a look at Guy Stuff's counseling men and counseling women pages.