In the beginning we love almost everything about our partner, but overtime that can change as we see more clearly the flaws that we all have. Yet in some relationships the loss of love isn't just over a few things we don't like, it goes much deeper. Relationships go through natural fluctuations and that isn’t always a bad thing. These changes can be cause for concern, however, and many women want to know if there are signs he doesn't love me anymore.
So how do you know if the changes in the love you're experiencing are normal or a problem? If you find yourself wondering, are signs he doesn't love me anymore, you should know that, yes, there certainly can be. Learning about them, however, requires us to first look at how someone loves us in the beginning.
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We . . . forgive and forget their mistakes . . . don't believe the bad things they think about themselves . . . think they're beautiful when they feel ugly . . . remember their wholeness when they're broken . . . see past their guilt to their innocence . .. point them back to who they are when they're lost.
It's natural for the way we love our partner to change over time. We may not feel the same way later in the relationship as we did in the beginning, and we may not be as forgiving or understanding either. And, arguably, in the beginning nearly all of us are a little too carefree in how easily we blindly love, because early love can make us act more than a bit naïve and foolish. However, when most or all of these acts of love disappear, that's one of the warning signs to remember when you’re thinking he doesn't love me anymore (more signs your husband doesn't love you).
How Do I Recognize The Signs He Doesn’t Love Me?
It seems that women are often much more in-tune with these changes than are men. Yet because the changes can be so subtle and excused away so easily they can be hard for anyone to spot and accept when he doesn't love you anymore.
Before we look at some specific signs, however, it’s important to recognize that just as relationships change over time, expressions of love do too. As easy as it is to explain away the lack of loving gestures, it can be just as easy to read too much into the lack of them as well. Sometimes the normal ups and downs of daily life cause us to overlook and forget to do the small things we used to do that expressed our love.
If you’re truly concerned that he doesn’t love you anymore then there are some particular warning signs to watch out for – see if any of these seem familiar:
- Lack of caring about you
- Being overly critical
- Lack of loving acts or words
- You no longer seem like someone special or important
- There is no forgiveness
- No sex in marriage
There can be many understandable reasons for any of these unloving behaviors. If you're seeing these things in your relationship it’s important to remember that it takes two to tango as they say. Before you determine that he no longer loves you, spend some time considering your own behavior. Are you displaying any of the same things? One thing that’s true in all relationships is that we react to each other. Angry or dismissive behavior by one person is often met with angry and dismissive behavior by the other. So it’s important to make sure that you aren’t actually part of the problem before you determine that it’s all him.
If these behaviors become persistent, however, and you are confident that you are doing your part, you need to start seriously considering that these may be signs he doesn't love you anymore. That doesn’t mean that you can’t get the love back, it will just take time, effort and work on both of your parts. It does help to get the viewpoint of an unbiased, objective person when you're trying to make this important determination, so consider couples counseling before you decide it’s over. Ending things isn’t a decision to make alone.
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Editor's Note: This post was originally published May 31, 2014. It has been updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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