5 Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You

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Contents

Is It ‘Isn’t In Love’ or Something Else?
Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You
Takeaways About Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You
FAQs

You have this nagging feeling that your husband is no longer in love with you.

At first, it can seem like a crazy thought. So, you dismiss it.

Then you notice that it’s popping-up more and more.

Now, you can’t shake it, and want to know if there are signs your husband isn’t in love with you.

Yes, there are.

It’s important to note, however, that there are always a number of possible explanations for someone’s behavior. And they aren’t all bad.

Is It ‘Isn’t In Love’ or Something Else?

It’s hard to know for sure.

Keep in mind that it can be easy to go negative with your thinking, especially about something that will impact you as much as losing the love of your husband.

So, be careful of the following as you’re looking for signs your husband isn’t in love with you.

Automatically thinking negatively
Over focusing on one possible explanation
Generalizing

Ultimately, you won’t know for certain how he feels unless he tells you.

But in my experience you often won’t get an answer, or at least not an honest one. And even if you get the truth – will you know it or believe it?

If he does give you an answer, you probably should maintain some skepticism as to whether it’s really true or the full answer, especially if you’ve seen some of the signs below that your husband isn’t in love with you.

Some additional things to keep in mind –

Sometimes partners aren’t completely honest with each other
Often people aren’t even honest with themselves
He may not know how he truly feels (even those who know usually still have some level of uncertainty)

My husband has told me he isn't in love with me. He confessed this after I found some text messages about possible cheating. He says he attempted it but nothing happened. Many of the reasons he tells me as to why he has done this to me is because he feels like coming home is not something he looks forward to, that he's not satisfied financially or workwise.” - Rene

Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You

1. No Interest in Sex

This is the first one almost everyone goes to, but it’s a mistake. People who aren’t in love have sex all the time. So, even if he’ll have sex with you, or says he wants to have sex with you, it doesn’t mean he’s in loves you.

As a result,

No Interest in Sex

is not the number one sign.

New #1. No Care, Concern, or Interest in You

This is what you need to be looking for instead of interest in sex.

Love is expressed in actions, not just words. When we love something or someone, we care about it or them – we give our time, attention, and make it/them a priority.

One of the biggest signs your husband isn’t in love with you is that he doesn’t care about you.

He’s more interested in –

Work
Golf (any hobby/activity)
Other relationships (his friends, mom, sister)

than you.

2. Irritable, Inpatient, or Mean to You

Another key sign your husband isn’t in love with you is that he’s consistently frustrated with you or worse.

We all can have moments, myself included, when we’re irritated at our partner – that’s normal. But when this becomes regular, or mean or cruel, then it’s a sign he doesn’t love you the same way anymore.

When we love our partners, we get over the frustration, or forgive what caused it.

Husbands who aren’t in love anymore don’t. In fact, for them each cause gets recorded and added to the list of reasons why they don’t love you.

3. Pushes You Away

This can be subtle or obvious. Pushing you away can be done by –

Not including you in things
Giving you the silent treatment
Treating you like a roommate

But it can also be direct.

4. Treats You Differently

One irony of intimate relationships, the ones where we should love the person the most, is that they usually get the worst sides of us. But they should also get the best.

A more subtle sign your husband isn’t in love with you is that he treats you differently from everyone else.

He –

Cares about everyone else, but you.
Only gets angry at you.
Is pleasant or happy around everyone else, but you.

5. He's Looking Elsewhere

This can be going on and you may not know it. But if you catch him texting another woman, on dating apps, flirting on social media, or anything similar, it’s definitely a sign that his love is either seriously lacking or gone.

It’s important to note that there are so many opportunities today for looking elsewhere that you really have to be intentional not to do so.

So, even though this one is a BIGGIE, understandably so, it’s important not to overreact. It isn’t always what it seems.

Takeaways About Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You

The caution I gave in the prior paragraph really goes for every sign on this list – don’t overreact.

If you think you’re seeing signs your husband isn’t in love with you, please read the first section, Is It ‘Isn’t In Love’ or Something Else?, again.

A final caution - I’ve been helping couples rebuild the love for more than 22 years, and from that experience I know firsthand that it’s ALWAYS possible to get it back. It just comes down to the willingness to try. So, don’t lose hope.

FAQs

Can men fall back in love?

Yes, all men can fall back in love. However, for that to happen, and for it to last, the reasons they fell out of love have to be identified and addressed. It’s usually not easy, but it’s always possible.

Does he really want a younger woman?

It depends on the man. It also depends on the behavior that’s making you ask this question, as well as the reason for it. Smelling smoke doesn’t have to mean your house is going to burn down.

Are you looking for signs your husband isn’t in love with you? Please share with other readers what signs you’ve seen and get their opinion.