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A wife I've been working with in marriage counseling designed for men told me yesterday that last week her husband asked her for a hug for the first time in their 15 year marriage.
I know she can relate to these excerpts from the article Advice: He Never Says "I Love You" from Psychology Today.
Can you relate to this wife?
Here's the advice she got from Psychology Today:
I disagree with the part of the Psychology Today response that says that this husband "can't" say "I love you." I would change that to he's not comfortable, he doesn't know how, or just that he doesn't say "I love you" -- yet. I do counseling with men that this describes, but they can and do develop the ability to say "I love you" and make this habit with the right help.
Love is not just a feeling, it's a choice and an action, and one that is learned practice.
What part of this can you relate to?
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