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Do Women Watch Porn? If so, why??

  
  
  
  

Do Women Watch PornPart 2 of 3 on Porn for Women

Ok, all the men are dying to know, do women watch porn? Yes, some women do watch porn. However, from my experience the majority of women do not, and they have no interest in doing so.  Sorry guys.

To better understand women and porn, be sure to read the last post, Do Women Like Porn?

Why do women watch porn? Here are a few of the reasons why some women watch porn:

  1. Accommodate the desires of the man in their life.  Many women mistakenly put their own feelings aside and accept watching porn to try to make their men happy.
  2. Understand why men watch porn. A lot of women really want to understand their man more, why he does what he does, so they’ll watch porn to try to find out.
  3. Peer pressure. Our culture has made watching porn normal and removed nearly all of the negative views that once surrounded it.
  4. Some women watch porn for the same reason men do, visual stimulation, sexual arousal and release.  These women are a small minority though.
  5. Lack of knowledge about how porn negatively affects all of us, men and women. Porn distorts our thinking about sex, but most people don't know this or realize how damaging this is to them.
  6. Unhealthy understanding of sex. Many women have had negative sexual experiences that have altered their view of sex.  Some of them are aware of this, but many are not.  An unhealthy view and understanding of sex contributes to a desire to watch porn -- for women and men.

So back to the question, “do women watch porn?” Yes, some do, but the reasons why they do are varied, and just because they do doesn’t make watching porn right or good for them. Remember, a lot of people unknowingly do stupid things that aren't good for them.

In the next and last post on women and porn we’ll hear what women think about porn in their own words.

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the reasons that women watch porn, that were listed above are not always exactly true. what if their sex life is " too routine ? " what if they cannot orgasm with a man, and need a toy, and their man doesn't take enough time to do foreplay, be more passionate, romantic, dance with them, massages, etc.? or to learn the proper ways in which to do the foreplay to pleasure her the way she needs? even after she suggests it and tries showing him and he still forgets or puts it off and just goes right into the main event.or only tries being romantic once then falls back into his same old routine again? the female will not want to remind, coax nag him to do / say nice, sexy, romantic things to get her in the mood. she feels let down her needs unmet, tired of asking for what she wants not getting it, hearing excuses i'm too tired, or i'm no romeo ! so instead she turns to porn. it happens.
Posted @ Saturday, July 14, 2012 11:32 AM by tammy
Tammy, Thanks for sharing another reason. The description you give may be reasons for women to turn to porn, but it doesn't make it the right thing to do. What you're describing is a relationship without mutual love and respect. That should and can change, but it doesn't have to if you use porn to deal with the problem. -Kurt
Posted @ Wednesday, July 18, 2012 7:45 AM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I have gone to porn for some of the reason posted. To explore fantasies with my partner. To try and get him to open up more sexually. 
 
Also for when I am in the mood and my partner isn't home to help me out it's nice to have a visual. I can fantasize about my partner very well but he isn't very open with me sexually. He wants to be but he isn't so, I like watching lesbian porn. I like to imagine I am with another women who can be more intimate and understanding and cater to my needs as well as I to hers. Sometimes. I very rarely do this and I honestly feel it's a stab in the back to him but I do tell him when I do it. I've only done this a few times I'd say 5 times within the almost 7 years we have been together. He says he doesn't mind it doesn't excite him or anger him.
Posted @ Friday, July 20, 2012 8:24 PM by Alejandra
Alejandra, Thanks for sharing your experience. Being honest with each other about what we're doing and why is the most important thing. One of the most destructive aspects of porn is that it's most often done secretly, which is very destructive. -Kurt
Posted @ Monday, August 13, 2012 8:10 PM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I think, actually I'm sure, that porn doesn't give a distorted view of sex in all cases.  
 
In my case - I'm a man - I saw and learnt, by being shown it thru pics, videos and more, what women are truly like, how are they doing what they do (yes, in many cases it's fake, but in many others, it's not) and what do they like. It really opened a new vista for me on those subjects, and it's not like I didn't know women before, it's just that I was exposed to a wide variety of things which I wasn't aware of, physical and mental. For this, I'm grateful to the porn industry. That said, I deplore the sex slavery and the use of the woman as a sex object, I truly do, but on the other hand, I admit I enjoy it. 
 
 
 
And what's more imortant even, is that I understood, and now I'm aware that women can be beautiful and sexy and appealing at all ages and sizes and looks, something not all men accept or understand. This is a very great boon for women regarding the men's attitude toewards them. 
 
 
 
I also understood that most all women at all ages want and do sex. 
 
 
 
Now, all this that I learnt and understood are not little things, and they give me a better and more understanding perspective towards women. I'm thankful for that.
Posted @ Friday, October 05, 2012 7:57 PM by D B
Porn is a deliberate personality in and of itself. Once it's audience is seated it becomes a strong and powerful speaker. A person has know idea what Porn is going to do or say, until engaged and captivated by its compelling speech.  
 
Most women feel threatened and are insecure from the very existence of porn. However, Porn can be extremely exciting and rewarding, in a healthy, loving, and hot relationship.  
 
Cheating is a choice. Porn is not responsible for a person going outside of a relationship, we are the responsible party. A failing relationship generally has ample time to be salvaged if a person is paying attention.  
 
A spouse caught whacking off in a room alone can be handled in such an inviting way, that it can actually bring you closer. It does not necessarily mean its a deal breaker. Get out your kit gloves and start dealing. Start asking your questions. Am I starving my mate? Have I been making myself intimately available in this relationship? Am I taking my happily ever after for granted...AGAIN? 
 
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Posted @ Saturday, January 19, 2013 9:28 AM by Nikki Brown
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