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"My Wife is Emotionally Abusive" - Mr. Marriage Counselor

  
  
  
  

Emotionally Abusive WifeQ: I'm male. Right now I don't know what to do. I think my wife is emotionally abusive. Some days I try to keep my mouth shut. Today I was mentally hurt by her. I was feeling sad. I should have not told her I was sad because all the sudden she screamed at me and told me she wasn't staying at home. Saying how sick of it she is, slamming stuff around. I'm afraid of this behavior. I don't want to be separated from my kids. But I realize my wife emotionally abuses me. I feel like she might be rubbing off on the kids and maybe someday they will be abusive. That is my biggest fear, for my kids. -- Ryan V.

A: You've come to an important realization -- there's a problem in your relationship that needs to be fixed.  Too many people in emotionally abusive relationships either never get to that recognition or don't get there fast enough.  Congratulations, you've taken the first step towards change.

What you describe does sound like emotionally abusive behavior.  Some of the signs of emotional abuse are the volatility, anger, threats, aggression, blame, and personal attacks by the abuser; then fear and self-blame for the victim.  Although there may be things you don't know about that are contributing to why she responded this way, the behavior is still emotionally abusive.

You're right in being fearful about how your relationship is negatively affecting your kids.  Fear is a common feeling in emotionally abusive relationships, and unfortunately people can allow it keep them feeling trapped and stuck.  You need to be concerned for your own well being as well.  A characteristic for victims of emotional abuse is not valuing yourself enough.

Emotional abuse is a really hard issue to deal with on your own, so get some support from a professional counselor.  If your wife is willing, going to couples counseling together would be a great way for you to get the help you need so that you both can feel heard.

-- Kurt Smith, Marriage Counselor

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I hope someone sees and answers this because I'm down to last resorts. I'm pretty sure my wife is emotionally abuse because she; constantly yells at me, holds me accountable for things I did 12 and 15 yrs ago (still judged for them today) goes back and forth between "loving" me and "not knowing what she wants", blames me for ruining her life, tells me that I am the sole reason for her unhappiness, tells me I'm half the man her father is, says I'm whinning when I try to express hurt feelings, tells me I'm selfish, tells me she hates me, gets mad when I'm depressed...which is all the time, tells me that my hurt over being sexually abuaed as a child is just an excuse for me today, she belittles me often, tells me she's going to leave me, tells me know one will want me once they know me, tells me no one will want me after they have to deal with my 3 kids, gets mad if I slack on house work...even if I've just worked a 20+ hrs shift, tells me that I never help out with house keeping and that the place is a discusting mess even though I clean 25 out of 30 days, constantly accuses me of drug abuse and uses it as ground for fighting....even though I've never failed a random drug screen administered by the federal government, blames me for dwendling funds, tells me that all i do is lie even though I tell her the truth about everything. My list could go on and on but I think you get the point. I'm literally afraid of her and her "mood-swings", dread coming home because I dont know what kind of mood she's in. I have bonified panic attacks when I see her number all the caller ID because I dont know if she is calling to yell at me or just say hi. In short, I feel like a punching bad, a person of no value. She treats me just as she treats the kids. She makes me feel worthless, worried, and casts a grim out look upon the possibility of me ever being happy. I do.t know what else to do. i love my kids and can't stand the thought of not seeing them every day / every night. I often think that dying is my only way out, that dying would be less painful, and that my peace may only be found in the grave. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm a depressed, anxious mess. Someone help me please!
Posted @ Sunday, March 04, 2012 8:30 AM by Chad R
Chad, Yes, you're in an emotionally abusive relationship. Please get some professional counseling help. There are low cost options in every community if money is an issue. You need someone with experience to help you change things. Dying is not a solution -- it will only create more problems for your kids and others. If you're thinking about hurting yourself, call a local crisis hotline, they're available 24/7. Reach out for help -- it's available if you seek it out. -Kurt
Posted @ Tuesday, March 06, 2012 1:18 PM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
Chad, 
 
 
 
I know exactly how you feel. I have been separated from my emotionally abusive wife for 10 months now and I still have not gotten over the abuse. I feel as if the entire world is passing my by and I am not able to grab hold and enjoy the ride. We have a beautiful daughter together so I have to stay in contact with her on a regular basis. Every time there is an issue with out daughter she calls me to give a guilt trip. Our daughter was recently sick and she called me several times a day to express her dislike that I was not there to help. I offer to help and her reply is "dont worry about it". She tells me I am worthless and no women would ever want me. While we where married she called me stupid on a regular basis, yelled and screamed when things did not go as she saw fit, threw a glass of wine in my face on two different ocasions the list goes on and on. It got to the point where I just wanted to avoid her any way possible. She made my home life a total nightmare, I walked on eggshells 24/7. One day I had enough and I had to leave. Now I find myself unable to move forward with my life, I feel like I am lost. She has starting dating, I found out through our daughter. I told her I wish she would of told me instead of my daughter. Her response was "do you expect me to grow old and lonely? Your worthless so I am moving on." Two weeks later she tells me she cannot date anyone else because all she does is think of me. I dont know, I am just a mental wreck right now. 
 
 
 
MP
Posted @ Tuesday, May 22, 2012 8:33 PM by Mark
MP, emotional abuse can spin us in circles and make us so confused. You need to speak with a professional counselor to learn the best ways to respond to her. Since you have a daughter together, even if you're separated, you're going to have a relationship, so you need to learn how to deal with her. Please get some help. The tools a counselor like myself can give you can really be a big, big help. -Kurt
Posted @ Thursday, May 31, 2012 8:23 AM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I am also in what could be described as an emotionally and sometimes physically abuive relationship. Everything that has ever happened in our lives is my fault. I am useless, a liar, a jerk, a demeanour of women, abusive all our married life, where no-one can stand me including my in-laws as well as my kids....so I am told. Regardless of what I do or achieve I am told I am useless and worthless. The worst father in the world who should never have been allowed to have children. I am blamed for the fact that we have three healthy boys and that I could not give my wife a girl apparently as every other man can! I am constantly screamed at even if I agree with her. If I have a different opinion I'm delusional. I am not perfect by any means. I tell her that I love her every day yet she is always too busy to stop so I can kiss her or cuddle her. I am chided for not being able to provide as "others" can despite the fact that we want for nothing, have an ultra modern home, boats, cars holiday houses and so on. I am brought to tears regularly. I am told in front of friends to just shut my mouth and don't talk. I am not invited anywhere with my wife because she is afraid of what might come out of my mouth. She tells me she hates me more than anything in the world for abusing her and ruining her life. She calls me names, tells me that I will be the lonely little boy sitting on a chair by myself as time comes. She tells me that it is her job to put me in my place as I was put on a pedastal as a child and she believes that I think I can do no wrong. She cannot believe that I can hold down a job or work with people. I have treated her like my punching bag apparently. She has given me black eyes, split lips, scratched my neck and face till it bled, ripped shirts from my back and thrown things through windows in fits of rage. All my fault. She even deliberatelt backed her car straight into mine when parked behind her to teach me to park on the street and not in the driveway. I have supported her through evrything. She blames everyone including her parents and I have had enough. Going to counselling is what I want but ammet with "I cannot wait to tell them how you've abused me for so many years"! Everything I say is taken out of context. She brings up things that happened 5, 10, 15 years ago as if they were yesterday. HELP please.....
Posted @ Sunday, August 05, 2012 11:56 PM by Tim
Tim, If you want to go to counseling, wich you should, go by yourself if you have to. Don't worry about what she might say, a good counselor will be able to see the truth of your relationship. You need to do something to get this to change, so get started. -Kurt
Posted @ Monday, August 13, 2012 11:27 PM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
Hi. I really thought I was in a unique boat, but seems I am not. (well, maybe a little) I have been married to my wife for 18 years now, and I must be honest, much of that time is great and fun. Unfortunately there are other times when it is literally unbearable. My wife was abused, physically, emotionally and sexually as a child, and there are times when that rage comes out, only problem is that the rage is always focussed on me. I have been hit, stabbed, punched, pushed into traffic etc on these occasions. I have been told what a looser I am and how much she hates me. I am constantly blamed for everything that goes wrong, and I must admit that sometimes it is my fault - I am not perfect.  
 
I have often wanted to just get out whichever way I could, my unique problem is that I am a pastor, and if I leave my wife, I loose my job, which means that I have no-where to live, and I have no other experience for work. I too have thought of suicide, but that is no option, so now I basically ride the storm out, wait for it to get better again, and then sit in fear waiting for the next outburst, which seems to be becoming more frequent as time goes.  
 
Counselling is not an option since she wont acknowledge any fault, and merely talking to someone else also wont help my situation. Guess I'm just stuck.
Posted @ Tuesday, August 21, 2012 3:03 AM by Ian
Ian, I completely disagree that counseling won't help. You don't need her to come along in order for you to learn strategies to better deal with her pain and resulting rage. You can choose to be stuck or you can choose to do something about it. -Kurt
Posted @ Wednesday, September 05, 2012 12:35 PM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I am in the same boat as the previous posts. My wife goes through long phases of being completely enraged. The tiniest bumps in the road will stress her out immensely and she handles that stress with extreme anger towards me and exposes our sweet 3 year old to it- he's starting to reflect some of the behavior. I'm scared, at times my knees knock every time I hear the phone ring. She is understandably stressed with difficulties in raising a child because she has virtually no support. Few if any close friends and an emotionally as well as geographically distant family. I'm the only one, and she just gets mad whenever I try to help in any way. She also suffered a fairly violent and traumatic incident as a teenager. I find she doesn't trust anyone, thinks everyone is out to get her- mostly me. My main problem is I know she needs to get in for therapy/medication? But it feels like it would take a full on miracle to get her there. She is oblivious to the way she acts and refuses to acknowledge a problem with herself. I'm scared if we split, she would be so upset that she would do her best to keep me away from our child, and she has nobody to support her in any way. I need help! Please!
Posted @ Tuesday, September 18, 2012 6:49 PM by James
My wife has issues...everyday i walk on eggshells because she will blow at a moments notice..she cusses me out,throws things,talks about me in front of my son and she yells at him, gives threats of divorce all the time. She gets uspet about things that has happened months and months ago. I'm in therpy, but i cant live under stress everyday. I'm afraid that i might snap and something bad is going to happen.
Posted @ Monday, September 24, 2012 8:09 PM by rory
James, Begin by setting limits on what you'll accept from her in how she treats you. And build on that slowly. It will begin to have an effect on her if you stay consistent. -Kurt
Posted @ Wednesday, October 03, 2012 7:35 AM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I have been with my wife for 4 years and at first it was great. I am in my second marriage and at first it was completely different from the first. My first was with a verbally, physically abusive woman. Now my second marriage has fallen into the same things. My wife now is the coldest person. I can’t do anything right no matter how much I do it’s never enough. She constantly compares me to guys she used to date. I honestly feel like she duped me into marring her so I would adopt her son. From the moment I adopted him things have changed. Now we have a child of our own and she tells me she F***ing hates me and we never have sex cause of my physical appearance. (Even though I'm 10Lbs lighter than I was in college) If she isn’t mad about something I did or didn’t do then she is mad about something I did or didn’t do six months ago. I really open up my heart and tell her how I feel and she crushes me with her lack of love and tells my I'm too sensitive. All I told her was "I haven’t felt love in a really long time and I want that back" I told her I would do whatever it takes to get that back but she still doesn’t budge. She is stuck on the past and past relationships. I have never really felt like she has opened herself up to me 100% and she say I’m the one ruining the marriage. I don’t know what to do. I'm so lost!!!
Posted @ Monday, October 15, 2012 6:48 AM by Josh
Five years into a great marriage, I was notified that I had fathered a child from a previous short-term relationship. My wife would not accept the child into the family so it was kept hidden. As time went on, she became more selfish, and vindictive--having me pay for all the bills (her credit card debt, kids tuition, car payment etc...)as retribution to me paying child support. Also, hugs and conversation ceased and eventually the sex. Today, I continue to be taken advantage of. I work two jobs to give her and the kids what they want but she tells them that I am a mean, useless, sinner of a father. I am, by nature, sensitive and emotional but have been enduring the abuse for years. Now, 18 years into the marriage, she wants a divorce but expects me to continue living broke by paying the children's private education and debts. I love my children and removing them from private schools would devastate them; so, grudgingly, I continue to work 75 hours a week to pay all the bills but the anxiety of a painful and expensive divorce depresses me severely. Where did I go wrong?
Posted @ Friday, October 19, 2012 4:16 PM by John
Five years into a great marriage, I was notified that I had fathered a child from a previous short-term relationship. My wife would not accept the child into the family so it was kept hidden. As time went on, she became more selfish, and vindictive--having me pay for all the bills (her credit card debt, kids tuition, car payment etc...)as retribution to me paying child support. Also, hugs and conversation ceased and eventually the sex. Today, I continue to be taken advantage of. I work two jobs to give her and the kids what they want but she tells them that I am a mean, useless, sinner of a father. I am, by nature, sensitive and emotional but have been enduring the abuse for years. Now, 18 years into the marriage, she wants a divorce but expects me to continue living broke by paying the children's private education and debts. I love my children and removing them from private schools would devastate them; so, grudgingly, I continue to work 75 hours a week to pay all the bills but the anxiety of a painful and expensive divorce depresses me severely. Where did I go wrong?
Posted @ Friday, October 19, 2012 4:39 PM by John
Five years into a great marriage, I was notified that I had fathered a child from a previous short-term relationship. My wife would not accept the child into the family so it was kept hidden. As time went on, she became more selfish, and vindictive--having me pay for all the bills (her credit card debt, kids tuition, car payment etc...)as retribution to me paying child support. Also, hugs and conversation ceased and eventually the sex. Today, I continue to be taken advantage of. I work two jobs to give her and the kids what they want but she tells them that I am a mean, useless, sinner of a father. I am, by nature, sensitive and emotional but have been enduring the abuse for years. Now, 18 years into the marriage, she wants a divorce but expects me to continue living broke by paying the children's private education and debts. I love my children and removing them from private schools would devastate them; so, grudgingly, I continue to work 75 hours a week to pay all the bills but the anxiety of a painful and expensive divorce depresses me severely. Where did I go wrong?
Posted @ Friday, October 19, 2012 4:41 PM by John
Five years into a great marriage, I was notified that I had fathered a child from a previous short-term relationship. My wife would not accept the child into the family so it was kept hidden. As time went on, she became more selfish, and vindictive--having me pay for all the bills (her credit card debt, kid's tuition, car payment etc...)as retribution to me paying child support. Also, hugs and conversation ceased and eventually the sex. Today, I continue to be taken advantage of. I work two jobs to give her and the kids what they want but she tells them that I am a mean, useless, sinner of a father. I am, by nature, sensitive and emotional but have been enduring the abuse for years. Now, 18 years into the marriage, she wants a divorce but expects me to continue living broke by paying the children's private education and debts. I love my children and removing them from private schools would devastate them; so, grudgingly, I continue to work 75 hours a week to pay all the bills but the anxiety of a painful and expensive divorce depresses me severely. Where did I go wrong?
Posted @ Friday, October 19, 2012 4:44 PM by John
I am coming to the realization that I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. My wife was too good to be true when we met and dated. However, shortly after we got married, our marriage became a control battle; she controlling me and me not being controlled. It went to a whole new level after we had our first of 4 children. She is an awesome mother and comes across as the perfect person to everybody else in the world but to me she is the exact opposite. She blames, shames, criticizes, ridicules, undermines, disagrees, opposes, condemns, belittles, berates, resists, manipulates, dominates deceives,etc., etc. She is very careful to only display this behavior when others are not around. I used to be very happy and sanguine. Since being married I have become depressed and melancholy. We have tried counseling and the counselor focused on me and never really even probed her behaviors. I am tired of being blamed for problems in our relationship simply because I am the husband. Whenever I try to call her on her behaviors I get nothing but resistance and blame. The funny thing is that whenever we spend extended time with her family and she is on the receiving end of her family dysfunction, she gets depressed, loses confidence and feels terrible. There have been a few times when She came back to me and apologized to me for her behavior after experiencing it from her family. I told her that at least she can get away from it but I have to deal with it every day. I am losing hope that our marriage will ever be life giving. I am staying in our relationship because of our children and religious conviction. However, my youngest is only 9 and I don't think I can hold out until he leaves the home. 
Part of the issue is that our kids see me react to her and blame me for the tension in our home. I wish they could see me as the happy go lucky, easy going person that I was before I got married. What can I do?????
Posted @ Wednesday, December 12, 2012 9:34 AM by Dave
I have been in a verbally abusive relationship for 16 years. Same as everybody else. No respect,belittled,talked down too. You name it she said it. My daughters are now 13 and 14 and they see their mother for what she is. Witch and a bully. I don't love her anymore and as soon as the kids are in college she will be delt with. I don't take her crap anymore but because i declared war on her abuse i am a complete ahole and the marrage is junk. But it already was. You may ask why i stay? i can protect my kids better when i'm always around. Some day my life might improve but im to the point where i just want what's best for my kids. Don't really care what happens to me anymore. love sucks that's the truth. Good luck to all those that stop taking womans crap!
Posted @ Thursday, December 27, 2012 10:32 PM by mark
My story is a lot like the others I have read here. It is so long and drawn out though, that no one would be able to finish reading.  
 
In a nutshell, I realize I fit the mold of an emotionally and psychologically abused husband. Our daughter is 15 and I am going to have to find a way to cope for the next three years. I am 52 and am not getting any younger either. I just have to figure out how not to take her crap anymore. My friend wonder why I don't "do something". Physically she can't hurt me. And I refuse to lose the war by raising a hand to HER.
Posted @ Saturday, January 19, 2013 7:08 AM by John S
My name is Rick and I am a pastoral counselor. I give a free listening ear and then will share a few scriptures that help bring peace. I have been with my wife for 30 years and have seen it all. The main thing to remember is total honesty. NEVER let the spouse get you to question reality. Many of these women will try and GASLIGHT you. Continue to be a loving person and be there for your kids. I have 3 children and they are very healthy and stable kids who know how to love. They are able to see through the lies and this has actually helped them in life because the world is filled with people like this. I have a daughter who is a nurse and is able to laugh off poor behavior that she is exposed to. I have a son who is in a very loving relationship with a girl. They have both witnessed my wife's behavior and let that be a motivation to treat each other better. My teenage daughter hugs my wife and kills the evil with love. For those of you with kids, use this as a chance to explain right from wrong and tell them that they can be a strong loving person. Also point out the good in the abusive person, hopefully there is some. When dealing with the abusive person, it is ok to point out the fault but that person usually needs to hear a positive to direct them back to the right path. Is this always easy? Of course not, but my guess is that this abuse has actually helped you as a person become more aware of your own actions and hopefully has actually helped you become a more loving individual. I answer all emails, you can reach me at rnwest1@yahoo.com. If you truly are the one being abused, the problem is not with you, it's with them. Don't let them psychologically project their issues on to you. You accomplish this by NOT abusing back. If you are abused and don't abuse back, feel good about yourself-YOU"VE WON!!!
Posted @ Friday, March 01, 2013 10:11 AM by Rick
I'm beginning to fear that my wife is emotionally abusive. She's not as bad as many I've read about - not violent, not aggressive... But she is so insecure, that everything I do or say or think is an emotional attack to her. We've been married for 10 years, and she didn't used to be like this. She used to respect me, look up to me, admire me. I'm ashamed to say I cheated on her - I didn't actually have sex, but we were fast headed that way. Since then, I've allowed my guilt to lock down everything - she always used to read my emails and text messages, check my phone records, check up on where I was at all times... After I admitted the affair, I stopped resisting against any of that. As a result, I'm borderline suicidal these days. i know she loves me, and she doesn't want to make me feel like this, but i don't know how i can trust her to change. 
 
I love her, and I love my children (one of whom has special needs). But I can't keep living like this, and I can't bear the thought of leaving the kids - or her. She's an amazing woman, a wonderful mother... but everything I do is an attack. I don't know if I can keep hurting her.
Posted @ Monday, March 25, 2013 12:51 PM by Aaron
Aaron, 
First off, never commit suicide. You need to be there for your wife and kids. We all feel guilty when we do something wrong. Do not let guilt force you into doing something like suicide. It took alot of courage to admit that you nearly had an affair, I'm glad you didn't go all the way. You are over the hard part, you have admitted where you went wrong. Although it may hurt to have your wife distrust you, understand her hurt and use this as a chance to gain her trust back. Although she may hurt right now, her checking up on you does show some love although it probably doesn't seem like that to you. Love your wife, love your kids and when you feel down know that we all get down at times. Never give up and if you need a friend, email me at rnwest1@yahoo.com. She feels betrayed and it may take some time to heal. Help her by more love, that's the goal anyway is to love more. A special needs child can be tough at times but also a blessing. Hang in there and if you want to talk, email me. In the meantime, try some romantic dates oe nights at home. She deserves to be loved and so do you!
Posted @ Monday, March 25, 2013 1:48 PM by Rick
Aaron, As you know, you're in a really tough spot. Often times people cheat in a relationship that isn't healthy to begin with (part of the reason they cheat) and then the recovery from the affair is hampered and limited by the dysfunction in the relationship. Rick above means well, but his advice is too limited and off point. You need to speak with a professional counselor experienced in recovering from affairs. If you can't find someone, I'm available by phone or online (check the calendar on this website for more info). -Kurt
Posted @ Wednesday, March 27, 2013 3:04 PM by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
I've been married to my wife for over 23 years. I dearly love her and will do just about anything to let her know that I do. However, Ours is a childless marriage and she blames me and our strained relationship with others in my family(they're all out of state)for us not having a normal healthy environment to raise children. She had a son from an abusive marriage when she was 18 yo. He was raised by her ex in-laws and hasn't contacted her but a couple of times over the past 20 years. She isn't close to her 2 older brothers and pretty much has no one left in her life but me. Over the past 15 years or so, she has regularly had spats of high anger, accusing me of being unfaithful, lying, speaking with friends concerning private matters, passive aggressiveness, inviting unwelcome guests, being unchristian & liberal minded, etc. It really has gotten pretty ridiculous to where when ever I attempt to discuss what's bothering her she immediately changes the topic to something she claims I did years ago. It feels like I'm fighting a loosing game of dodge ball as she shifts gears to other issues so swiftly that I'm not even allowed to complete a sentence in response. Her verbal & emotional attacks always culminate in her threatening me with divorce & stating that no one would want me at my age and that I'd have to split everything with her and start again from scratch. I know she has bouts of depression from a traumatic childhood, rape and abusive marriage and I'm certain that those play a critical part in her behavior. I can't help but suspect her of possibly being bipolar as her mood swings can be pretty dramatic at times. I always try to keep her life experiences in perspective with her behavior but lately I've been becoming increasingly frustrated and depressed myself at the constant feelings of guilt and lack of self worth and the emotional drain I feel on a daily basis. I've gotten to the point that I've even started to allow myself to consider her threats of divorce as a legitimate solution. I've never allowed myself to even go there in the past due to my personal Christian convictions and know in my heart that is not what God wants. I'm just not sure how to heal the situation and restore the lost love in our marriage.
Posted @ Tuesday, June 25, 2013 12:04 AM by Dan
I'm in the same boat as the rest of you guys. I suspect my wife (and many of your wives) have either Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and/or Borderline Personality Disorder and/or are bi-polar. I start therapy for myself next week to better deal with this. It'll be a cold day in hell before my wife will admit fault and accept responsibility and get help for herself.  
 
But by and large, I'm a good hardworking husband and father who tries. I know I'm in this for the long haul - and in 10 years when my youngest is done with HS, I'll likely file for divorce and leave this living hell I've been in for the past several years as it's just gotten worse and worse.  
Posted @ Friday, July 19, 2013 9:01 PM by Chester
I HAVE BEEN IN A 15 YEARS LONG RELATIONSHIP, WITH MY WIFE SHE HAS TWO GIRLS FROM HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER EX HUSBAND, THE YOUNGER OF THE TWO GIRLS HAS MULT ISSUE, SHE BEEN LOCKED UP 2 X AND WAS IN BOOT CAMP FOR A YEAR IN THE PAST.SHE HAS 3 SMALL BABY FROM 3 OTHER MEN IN HER LIFE, AND ONLY KNOWS WERE ONE OF THE KIDS OUR. WHEN EVER SHE GET INTO ANY HOT WATER WITH THE LAW , OR BOY FRIENDS SHE RETURNS HOME TO HER MOTHER FOR HELP, REFUSSING TO HOLD ANY JOBS FOR MORE THEN A 3 OR 6 MO TIME SPEND, EAT OUR FOOD DRINKS OUR BEER IF WE HAVE ANY AND SMOKES 2 PK OF SMOKE A WK , AS WELL AS HER MOTHER DOING THE VERY SAME, THERE ALWAYS BIG CREDIT AND MONEY ISSUE WHEN SHE AROUND, AND MY SOON TO BE EX WIFE ALWAYS TAKES UP FOR HER, SAYING ALL FAMILYS HAVE ISSUE AND I SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT. MY SOON TO BE EX WIFE AND I HAVE VERY GOOD JOBS , AND CAN NEVER MK IT FROM PAY CHECK TO PAY CHECK WHEN ASKING WERE ALL THE MONEY GOING SHE SAID BILLS AND STOP ASKING ALL THE TIME. WE HAVE A 13 YO SON AS WELL , AND HE ALWAYS FIGHTING WITH HIS STEP SISTER, OVER WHY DO YOU DO ALL THE THINGS YOU DO AND TALK TO MY DAD THE WAY YOU DO, AND MY EX NEVER STEPPING IN TO STOP HER FOR THE MOST PART. APPOX 5 MO AGO I CAME HOME AND MY BAGS WERE PACKED IN THE DRIVE WA, WITH A NOTE I CAN NOT STAND ALL THIS FIGHTING WITH YOU AND MONEY ALWAYS POINTING MY FINGER AT HER YOUNGER CHILD, BY THE WAY SHE 24 YEARS OLD. I LEFT THE HOME TO STAY WITH FRIENDS AND FILED PAPER IN THE COURT TO END THE RELATIONSHIP, I ASKED HER TO GO WITH ME TO PSY FOR RELATIONSHIP HELP, AND SHE SAID IF YOUR BROKE YOU GO THERER NOT A THING WRONG WITH ME.BUT LEAVING THE HOME WAS VERY VERY HARD, SHE A GOOD MOTHER TO MY SON AND THERE NO ISSUE THERE, AS WELL AS BEING TO GOOD OF A MOTHER TWO HER GIRLS. AND SAID THE ONLY WAY I COULD COME HOME AS IF I WERE ABLE TO PUT MY HARD FEELING ASIDE AND FORGET ALL THE PAST, AND PUT UP WITH REAL FAMILY ISSUE LIKE ALL GOOD HUSBANDS WITH DO , NOT JUST WALK AWAY, I SAID MY BAGS WERE PK IN THE DRIVE WAY, YOU KICKED ME OUT I DID NOT JUST LEAVE.IF THAT THE WAY I SEE IT SO BE THEN, BUT IF YOU COME HOME ITS NEED TO BE FOR ALL OF US AND YOUR SON AS WELL MY GIRLS ISSUE OUR WHAT THEY OUR , AND I AM THERE MOTHER THAT THE WAY IT IS LIKE IT OR NOT. I HAVE SEEN A MD AND I AM ON RX THAT MAKING BUT I AM SO CONFUSSED ABOUT RETURING TO THE HOUSE FOR MY SON AND ONLY HIM, JUST SUPRESSING THE OTHER ISSUE TO KEEP THE FAMILY IN TACK. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME IN PUT HERE THANKS
Posted @ Wednesday, October 02, 2013 4:50 PM by G TROTTA
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