My fiance and I have known each other for 4 years now. We had a very though relationship. Were previously engaged but broke it of because of his insecurity problem and remarks etc. We broke up the engagement and stopped seeing or talking to each other. It was a very difficult. This happened early 2010. He began trying to contact me again after two months. Apologizing for everything he did and said to me during the times we were together. After a quit courtship, on my birthday he proposed once more. I doubtfully accepted (because of cheating on behalf of him). He never wanted me on his facebook nor his myspace. I stupidly accepted to be engaged to him again never the less. with his promise and puppy dog eyes that he had changed. We would go out. He finally requested me on his facebook. to which i was also doubting accepting him. When I went on his page however, It stated that he was also engaged.... TO SOMEOME ELSE. All his friends had posted messages to him and her congratulating him. When I confronted him. He said that he needed to explain and all his friends had made a mistake. But he had a link to her as his "finace". I questioned him as all he had to say was "it's just facebook. I 'm not engaged to her I am engaged to you. calm down, it's just facebook. You're over reacting. believe me." then when he saw i didn't believe him. He had the odasity to say. why don't you ever believe me?.

My fiance says he is Networking for his work, and that people ask him to be friend him.  
 
1. He asks others from preveious freinds he does not know to be his friend and they are women, pretty ones and single. HUM  
 
2. Networking, I think NOT 
 
He says I am insucure???  
 
Ic have brought this to his attention again and told him he is emotionally cheating. He says he does not talk to them.  
 
I know I am a dumb arcs but is this like a mid-life crisis that they try and make themselves feel better cause they are aging?

Before my husband and I got married we both agreed to delete the people off of our facebook accounts that we had relationships with. I later found out that he hadn't deleted everyone (he had an internet only sexual relationship with one woman) but he had created a secret account solely to communicate with an exgirlfriend. Needless to say this has caused a host of problems and we both took a facebook break for a while. Recently, in an effort to improve our relationship and in a effort to work on trust, we reactivated our accounts. Now I can;t stop wondering who he's talking to and why and find myself reading into every comment he or someone else makes.

I've been married for 10 years to my wife. Several years ago, we both "agreed" that to help protect our marriage, neither of us would be "friends" on Facebook with anyone we had ever been in a relationship with before. At the time, it was more like me trying to convince her that this was a good way to honor our marriage vows and our commitment to each other, to which she eventually reluctantly agreed. I'll be the first to admit that I haven't always been the husband that she deserves, but I've never cheated on her in any way. Our relationship has had its ups-and-downs, but we've always worked it out, until 6 months ago when she wanted a separation. I guess you could say we're quasi-separated, but I'm doing everything I can to save the marriage. Shortly after she "separated", she was quick to become "friends" with her ex-boyfriends, and she spends hours at a time, usually late into the night (when I'm at home, in bed asleep) chatting with single male "friends". Has she had a sexual affair with any of them? I don't think so. But what she doesn't understand is how she took the trust and commitment and openness that our marriage was built on, the same things that helped us to get through our rough patches, and just threw them out the window.

Noah, I'm very sorry to hear that. It sounds like you guys were trying to set good boundaries to start. Be sure to keep them during the separation. Compromising them now would be a big mistake. -Kurt

My husband of 24 years has been flirting with a 24 year old girl on Facebook sending her pics of the sunrise and telling her she is pretty asked her for a picture of herself sticking out her tongue . How can theses young people today not realize they are helping to break up a marriage I'm not saying its her fault but she gets credit to he is the quilty person although he still doesn't want to take full credit for it he also about a year or so ago was texting a girl that we both knew and worked with and we both were friends with on our seperate accounts on Facebook I accidentally picked up his phone cause he was asleep and there was a text from her it was all innocent but I got very upset because I knew immediately that he was attracted to her I confronted him and her they each at different times told me it would never happen again she even promised me that if he ever contacted her again she would let me know things seemed great for awhile we had romantic weekend etc but then a month ago after we had sex he tells me that a friend of his who is facing issues in his marriage is talking to a 24year. Old girl I almost immediately realized that it was him I didn't say to much about his comment but as soon as I had an opportunity I got on his Facebook and looked at his private messages and there it all was where he was flirting with her she had given him her phone number and there was proof that he was talking to her even when I was with him we had been shopping on a certain date and there was messages all day between them he was sending her pics of the sunrise each day telling her how pretty she was and asking her if he could call her so I went and woke him up he sleeps during the day was asleep he admitted it was true but he always says that its my fault because we have lost our spark and that I don't put him up on a pedestal anymore so he was talking to her bout us first I just lost it I hit him about ten different times because he had already promised me that this kind of thing would not happen again we kept talking and I decided to stay for the time being after not sleeping and talking to him for about 36 hours it was thankgiving 2012 and he had to work we had layed down and slept about 5 hours but it was time for him to leave me around 10:00pm that night I was so emotionally drained still and upset that I told him if he left and went to work that I was gonna kill myself but he left anyway and took my pistol with him he was only gone a few mind when the thought went trough my head that he was gone and I couldn't handle it so I took around 100i ibuprofen because I told him I would do it if he left so I felt like I had to go through with it after taking the pills I called my parents and left them a message cause they were in bed dlready I posted on my FB that I was done and called him to I knew he wouldn't answer because I knew his cell service was bad on his ride to work I told him what I had done then thought about it and realized that I needed to take more pills cause I hadn't taken enough I didn't stop to think of the effect this would have on our two sons one 23 and the other19 I didn't even think about my granddaughter that is on her way in jan I was hurting so bad and I wanted to hurt my husband and needed attention from him that I felt I wasn't getting .he got the voicemail in the next few mins and called our oldest son who still lives with us to come find me and stop me he turned around and headed back home as fast as he could my son found me taking more pills and knocked them out of my hand my husband Daniel got back home I just say down in the floor they called 911 and I was taken to the hospital they put me on a  
1013 which meant I tried to harm myself here in Georgia I was then held at hospital until I was medically okay then released to a pyhciatric facility to be held until it was determined that I was safe not to harms self again after two days and talking to a shrink they released me I really didn't want to die it just seemed like a good idea at the time there are other guns in my house that I know how to use that would have taken my life if I had wanted to die I just really wanted him to hurt as much as I was it was all that I felt I had to make he decide if he wanted to be with me or not after coming home from hospital and another chat with a follow up shrink they all decided I was okay and I am I don't want to die just can't cope in theses kind of situation very well he had lied to me so muck already now this well I have been trying very hard to work out my feeling with him our trust is shot for now he is goons have to make me believe inhim again then two days ago after I keep bothering him about his phone cause he will not leave it laying around so I start to realize there is a reason after confronting him for about 15mins he admits that there is more that I don't want to see on that phone he admits that he has also still had contact with the first girl that I had caught him texting a year or so ago and that he was flirting with her at the same time as the 24year old girl my life is like an episode of Jerry springer we have no trust now and I'm not sure we can get back a real relationship the girl that's on the phone the one from a year ago I confronted her told thanks for her friendship and letting me know he was texting her she tried to say she didn't have my number but it was public on FB and I told her so I told her hope she burns in hell and don't want a friend like her I deleted her and block her from my account my life just sucks I really do love my hubby but will we get past all the lies it is gonna be the hardest thing I have ever done if so he is wiling to do anything to prove to me that he cares a least that is what he is saying but I heard it all before he says he will delete his FB but that's not the problem and I know it cause he will find other women to flirt with if that is what he still needs to make himself feel better he says that I rocked his world when I tried to kill myself why he is tring to be honest with me now that he does want to lose me I don't hold social media for accountable for this it just makes it easier for us all to tell people what we think if we're not face to face with them my husband would have found what he needed with or without FB still confused

Lisa, You're correct that FB isn't the problem and that he'll find other women to flirt with until he chooses better ways to make himself feel better. You should do what he needs to do, and not make your happiness or life dependent upon someone else's love (his). If he won't love you with the respect and consideration you deserve, more needs to change in your relationship than FB. Please get some professional help to learn how to change your marriage. -Kurt