Most guys believe what turns women on about men is . . . being tall and good looking, having big muscles and six-pack abs, hair on our heads, and definitely having a big house, fancy car and the financial means to give them whatever they want. Wrong - this maybe true for some women, but not for most.
What turns women on about men is not so obvious nor is it something you can buy. It's not something some guys have and others don't. It doesn't even require special skills or good fortune. It's something every guy can do and can start doing anytime.
Here's the secret . . . women get turned on by men by our behavior. Here's a social media post I wrote that will start to give you an idea about what I mean.
There's a very important point is this post: Guys often complain to me about not getting enough sex. But they miss (really ignore) the connection between their behavior and their partner's lack of desire to have sex with them.
Here's a real life example of how men can turn women on: A woman I was counseling this week told me about a time when her husband stood up in a board meeting and took a stand on an issue that was important to her. She said she was so turned on that she texted him during the meeting that he'd be getting a special sexual favor from her later that night. This is a guy who's in counseling with me partly because he struggles to show his wife that she's important to him and he loves her. But when he did, look at her response.
What turns women on about men is our behavior.
- How do we treat her? Are we respectful, considerate, and loving towards her?
- Do we prioritize her? Do our actions show she's important to us?
- Are we responsible, reliable, and do what we tell her we'll do?
- Do our actions build trust?
These things don't require a lot of money, hours in the gym, or a different genetic make-up. They do require effort though. There's only one Brad Pitt, but every guy can do what turns women on about men by choosing the right behavior (here are more ideas on ways to turn her on).
Come on guys, let's stop complaining about not getting enough sex and making excuses for our bad behavior. We all can do a better job at what really turns women on about men.
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