Counseling for Men: Man Discovers Bad Economy Can Mean More Sex
Posted by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC on Thu, Sep 24, 2009
It's not all bad news these days regarding the down economy -- some men are getting more sex.
When things were booming, Brian had a hard time freeing himself from his two work cell phones. They used to start ringing at 5:30 a.m., would continue non-stop all day, and then well into the evening. The money was really great, but family time was a casualty.
These days his cell phones have gotten a lot quieter. Fewer customers are calling him that early in the morning anymore. But a side benefit has been an opportunity for early morning intimate encounters with his wife, Jennifer, before the kids get up. And Brian's not complaining.
Yet it's an opportunity that Brian almost missed out on. A few month's ago things had gotten pretty strained between Brian and Jennifer. So much so that he came to marriage counseling to get some help before their marriage ended.
In counseling for men Brian learned some things he could change that made it more pleasant at home. One of them was limiting the time of day he answered calls from customers. Brian struggled with this idea at first. After all, when business is slow and his paycheck is down, how could lessening his availability to potential sales be a smart move?
Despite it not making any sense, he gave it a try anyway. It's 3 months later and Brian says his sales haven't gone down at all but are actually a little higher than before. Even though he's no longer interrupting play time with his kids to answer his phones. And he's not getting out of bed early in the morning to get a jump on prospecting.
He's also discovered something he didn't know before -- Jennifer has more energy and interest in sex in the mornings. The fact that, with the help of counseling, he's becoming more of the husband and father she wanted hasn't hurt his sexual attraction either.
So guys, want more sex? Try turning off your cell phone. It just might turn on your wife.
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