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Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior Traits in Men

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Jan 18, 2014

Narcissism and men seem to be linked together. In fact, because narcissistic men are pretty common, most of us have at least a vague idea of what narcissistic behavior traits in men look like.

Are only men narcissists? No, women can be too. Narcissistic mothers are one female version. In fact, a young engaged couple I was counseling this week is struggling mightily with his mother's out of control narcissism and the impact she's on their wedding planning and presently 'on-hold' marriage.

Narcissistic behavior can be very simple described as, 'it's all about me' syndrome.

Here's a Google+ post I wrote about recognizing narcissistic traits in someone you love (click the Read More button after the first 2 lines to see the full post).


As counselor who specializes in working the narcissism, especially in men, I can give you some expert advice. Here are a couple of important things to think about regarding narcissistic behavior traits in men. The number one narcissistic behavior trait in my experience is:

      • The problem with everything is always you -- it's never them (the narcissist)

A common symptom of dealing with a narcissist, especially when you're in a relationship with one, is that you're:

      • Frequently Doubting Yourself
      • Often Confused

These symptoms result from a couple of the behavior traits listed in the 'Narcissists Toolbox' shown above:

      • Create Self-Doubt in Others
      • Make Others Feel Confused
      • Deny Any Responsibility
      • Blame Everyone and Everything Else

Do narcissists consciously act this way? Yes and no. Be careful not to try to analyze 'why' a person is a narcissist, because the reasons are often very psychologically complicated (more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder). All you have to understand is the destruction these behaviors have on others and the narcissist themselves.

If you recognize these narcissistic behavior traits in a man you love, or maybe even yourself, get some professional mental health counseling help. Narcissism isn't impossible to change, but it's nearly impossible to do on your own.

Looking over this list of narcissistic behaviors, do you recognize these in anyone you know? If so, please share your experience in the comments below so we all can benefit from learning about more signs of narcissism. 

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