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3 Signs of Text Message Cheating

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Mon, Sep 14, 2015

It used to be if you wanted to have an affair it took some effort, but not any more. Sadly, text message cheating has become a simple way to cheat without much work at all.

Sometimes it's intentional and other times not. Regardless, text message cheating is a really easy way to start cheating, and often times not even realize it. Someone gets your cell number (a coworker, someone from the gym, a person you met at a party) and starts sending you friendly texts. Before you know it it's very easy to be having full-on conversations by text -- and most troubling to do so anytime, anywhere.
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Do All Men Cheat and Lie - True Or False?

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Tue, Apr 14, 2015

We're all capable of making excuses, covering up, and even lying about our behavior. But when we have a partner cheating and doing this it's easy to wonder . . . do all men cheat and lie?

No, not all men cheat and lie, nor is it just men who cheat. Women cheat, too. In fact, most men and women who cheat are not the stereotypical despicable, selfish, low-life commonly portrayed in the media.
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Dealing With A Cheating Spouse Is Difficult and Tricky

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Dec 06, 2014

There are many things our partners can do that can cause us to question ourselves. However, few things cause this to happen more than cheating. Dealing with a cheating spouse is difficult enough, but the almost automatic response to question ourselves just makes it even harder.

When dealing with a cheating spouse it's normal to ask how and why this happened, and in trying to answer those questions to assume that it has something to do with us. This line of thought, asking what we did wrong to cause the cheating happen, can take us down a bad path if we're not very careful.
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How Do Cheaters Feel About Their Cheating?

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Mon, Jul 28, 2014

When you discover you've been cheated on you feel a range of emotions -- shock, anger, hurt, just to name a few -- and often at their extremes. At some point everyone shifts from feeling to thinking and wants to know how do cheaters feel. Is he or she feeling any pain like I am?

If you're a partner who's been cheated on you're going to have a lot of questions. One type of question is going to be 'how' -- How do cheaters do it? How do cheaters feel? How do cheaters live with themselves?
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Why Sexting Is Cheating

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Apr 05, 2014

Some people can be pretty loose with their definition of cheating until they're on the receiving end of it. But if you find out your partner has been sexting someone else, you're likely to want to know if sexting is cheating.

A good question to ask yourself is, "Does it feel like cheating?" It certainly can feel like it when it's your partner doing it. Not all cheating involves sex, but the sexual element of sexting makes it feel more like cheating for many people.
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Looking For A Website To Have An Affair? Read This First.

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Mar 08, 2014

“Life is short. Have an affair.” That’s the tag line of a well known cheating website. If you’re searching for a website to have an affair, they’re out there (sadly).

As a counselor who helps couples rebuild after the destruction of an affair (as well as helping men and women who are in the midst of cheating and are very confused), I hope you’ll read this whole post if you’re searching the web for a website to have an affair.
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Wife Caught Cheating, What To Do Next

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Nov 23, 2013

It's one of the things we men hope never happens to us -- our wife caught cheating. Yet it's becoming more and more common to hear husbands say they've caught their wife cheating.

Here's the story of one of those men, Fernando, who caught his wife cheating. He wants to know how to deal with a wife caught cheating. Maybe you do too (or maybe a husband). Keep reading and I'll tell you.
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How To Stop Cheating

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Oct 19, 2013

None of us wants to think about our partner cheating. Certainly not before it happens. But taking the time to learn how to stop cheating is one of the best ways to prevent cheating from ever happening in our relationship.

Like everything else, prevention is so much easier than reacting after cheating's happened and trying to recover. Affairs are one of the most difficult events for couples to recover from. It's not impossible, and I've helped many do it, but it's a really tough road and it's so much better to never let cheating occur in the first place.
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Why Do Men Cheat & Blame Their Partner

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Wed, Jul 31, 2013

Part 2 of 2

I get asked, why do men cheat, a lot by women. Some questions are both simple and hard to answer - why do men cheat is one of them.

The wife of a cheating man recently asked me to help her understand why do men cheat in more depth. I've answered her 'how' questions in the previous post, How Do Men Cheat. Now, here are my answers to her 'why' questions. Here's part of her original request:
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How Do Men Cheat? Here's How

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Wed, May 29, 2013

Part 1 of 2

I recently received the following request from a woman asking me to explain how do men cheat. As the wife of a cheating man, she wanted help understanding how do men cheat. Here's what she wrote, followed by the first six questions she asked and my answers.

“Kurt can you write an article to help shed some light on the common questions/issues faced by the women who are left disillusioned by an affair. There is little written about what the affair partner goes through that can help betrayed partners understand what they are faced with on a daily basis - their partner's changes in personality, attitude & behavior.”
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