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Dealing With A Cheating Spouse Is Difficult and Tricky

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Dec 06, 2014

There are many things our partners can do that can cause us to question ourselves. However, few things cause this to happen more than cheating. Dealing with a cheating spouse is difficult enough, but the almost automatic response to question ourselves just makes it even harder.

When dealing with a cheating spouse it's normal to ask how and why this happened, and in trying to answer those questions to assume that it has something to do with us. This line of thought, asking what we did wrong to cause the cheating happen, can take us down a bad path if we're not very careful.

When our partner chooses to be with another person, feelings about our own inadequacy are understandably triggered. Unfortunately, most of us already have insecurities about our self-worth that when we're cheated on only becomes worse.

Take a look at the following Google+ post I wrote about how to deal with cheating and one woman's reaction to her cheating boyfriend. Be sure to click the Read More button after the first 2 lines so you can see and read the full post.

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How Do Cheaters Feel About Their Cheating?

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Mon, Jul 28, 2014

When you discover you've been cheated on you feel a range of emotions -- shock, anger, hurt, just to name a few -- and often at their extremes. At some point everyone shifts from feeling to thinking and wants to know how do cheaters feel. Is he or she feeling any pain like I am?

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Why Sexting Is Cheating

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Apr 05, 2014

Some people can be pretty loose with their definition of cheating until they're on the receiving end of it. But if you find out your partner has been sexting someone else, you're likely to want to know if sexting is cheating.

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Looking For A Website To Have An Affair? Read This First.

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Mar 08, 2014

“Life is short. Have an affair.” That’s the tag line of a well known cheating website. If you’re searching for a website to have an affair, they’re out there (sadly).

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Wife Caught Cheating, What To Do Next

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Nov 23, 2013

It's one of the things we men hope never happens to us -- our wife caught cheating. Yet it's becoming more and more common to hear husbands say they've caught their wife cheating.

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How To Stop Cheating

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Oct 19, 2013

None of us wants to think about our partner cheating. Certainly not before it happens. But taking the time to learn how to stop cheating is one of the best ways to prevent cheating from ever happening in our relationship.

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Why Do Men Cheat & Blame Their Partner

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Wed, Jul 31, 2013

Part 2 of 2

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How Do Men Cheat? Here's How

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Wed, May 29, 2013

Part 1 of 2

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Is Flirting Cheating? Yes, Flirting Is Cheating.

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Tue, Apr 16, 2013

Hey there, it's Kurt Smith. You know a few days ago on my Google Plus profile I made a post about flirting, and I said that flirting is cheating. 

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Why Do Women Cheat? One Woman Explains

Posted by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Tue, Dec 18, 2012

Although there’s not one answer to the question, why do women cheat, there are some frequently repeated reasons. Surprising or not, the reasons why women cheat aren’t that much different from the reasons men do.

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