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Most people by now have seen the shocking video of NFL player Ray Rice punching and knocking out his then-fiancee (now wife), Janay Palmer, in a casino elevator. For many it was an eye-opening example of what relationship abuse looks like. This truly was a peak behind closed doors, because in most cases of domestic abuse there is no video, no witnesses, and in half the cases, no police report. So are there signs of abusive relationships when there is no tape? Yes.
A woman told me this week she's -- "fighting with my husband constantly." "Is that normal?" she asked. Yes and no I told her.
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Let's continue looking at Carrie's marriage. She's wondering, "is my husband is depressed?"
Carrie's husband is unpredictable -- in his responses, behavior, and especially his emotions. She says she walks around on eggshells because of it. But could this really be a sign her husband is depressed?
We all got another example of what suicide in men looks like with the death of Robin Williams. One of the unfortunate things about his death and the depression that caused it is that they really aren’t that uncommon.
Depression in men can be hard to see sometimes. The reasons that cause depression in men don’t have to be though. Take a look at the list of life events below and see if you can see how these could cause anyone to feel depressed.
Depressed Men? "Yes, Virginia there really is a Santa Clause (and depressed men)." And truthfully, there are a lot more of them than most people think. They can just be a little hard to spot.
A lot of men struggle with looking at other women. Here's a submission I received from just such a guy and my recommendations on how he can learn to stop.
When you discover you've been cheated on you feel a range of emotions -- shock, anger, hurt, just to name a few -- and often at their extremes. At some point everyone shifts from feeling to thinking and wants to know how do cheaters feel. Is he or she feeling any pain like I am?
When marriages fall apart, it's pretty typical that one partner wants to end it and the other does not. The partner wanting to save the marriage then gets stuck (literally) trying to answer the question of how to know when your marriage is really over.
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Wives tell me "my husband doesn't love me anymore" all the time in couples counseling. It's not just wives in counseling who feel that their husbands don't love them either, and a lot of them are right (Learn What Are The Signs He Doesn't Love Me Anymore).