Feeling lonely is one of the worst pains we can experience. One of the few things that is actually worse is feeling alone in a relationship.
Sadly, a lot of people experience this pain. What makes it so hurtful is that a relationship is supposed to provide the opposite feeling of lonely. So the contradiction of feeling alone in a relationship leads to confusion, discontent, and even hopelessness. If we can't feel connected when in a relationship with someone who's supposed to love us, then what hope is there that we'll ever not feel alone?
Here's a post I wrote on my Google+ profile a while back about feeling lonely while in a relationship (click the Read More button after the first 2 lines to read the rest of the post).
Feeling alone in a relationship is not just a problem -- it's also a call to action. It's a warning sign that something's wrong and needs to be fixed. But too often it's accepted and ignored.
I find that most people accept feeling lonely in their relationship way too long. At first, it may not even look like you're alone as much as that there are compatibility problems, or divergent interests, or sex drive differences (Together But Still Alone). But over time these individual problems begin to add up, multiply, and become a generalized feeling about the relationship as a whole.
It's really important that we're proactive about addressing problems in our relationships. Just like it's not smart to ignore the engine warning on the dash of your car, the same goes to the warning signs at home. We all know that if we disregard that dash light it'll cost us more later on.
If you're feeling alone in a relationship, do something about it. If you don't know what to do, that's okay, just ask someone who will know. Relationship experts are available to help you if you're only willing to see the warning sign and act.
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It can really hurt when we're not getting the love we want. So it's understandable to want to know how to make someone love you so we can make that pain stop.
Let's look at some excerpts from one of my Google+ Hangouts to see what we can learn about how to make someone love you.
Can we make someone love us? More specifically, how do we make someone love us? Commonly when we’re struggling with these questions, we really want to focus on the reasons why somebody doesn’t love us. There are multiple parts that we need to look at. We need to look at our own part and our partner’s part, as well as both of our parts together.
In a previous hangout on loving someone who doesn’t love you, I discussed some of the reasons why somebody doesn’t love us. You might want to go back and look at that hangout to get a better idea of some of the reasons more specifically. Here, we’re going to focus on the part that we play in it and what we can do about it.
That is a really important piece to remember: we have a part in this. Often we are focused on the other person and looking at what they’re doing or not doing as far as loving us. We want to see what we can control to make them love us instead of focusing on what we really have control over which is ourselves.
This is an important point -- the answer to how to make someone love you starts with us, not them.
Let’s begin by looking at the question of how. Before we can answer how to make someone love you, we need to answer the question, “Can we?” The real answer about being able to make someone love you is that we really can’t. We’re looking to have control over someone else, but we often can’t. We can influence them, and we’ll look at ways that we can influence our partner and how they might love us more the way we are looking to be loved.
We need to understand the difference in the control -- that we can influence our partner but we can’t control them and actually make them love us. What can you do? How can you make someone love you?
First, we need to look at ourselves and see how we can be more loving. A common complaint I hear from a lot of people in counseling is that they just don’t feel like the other person is meeting their needs. Yet often times they’re not willing to look at themselves and see how they might be contributing to that.
Let’s focus first on ourselves and look at how we might be able to be more loving to our partner. This can be difficult because when we feel like we’re not being loved back we oftentimes don’t want to give the love, but a relationship needs to be fed. It requires that we don’t make our love conditional. Oftentimes people will do that -- they’ll withhold their love until they are getting the love back. This creates a catch-22, because the other person is oftentimes doing the same thing. The first thing we need to do is look at ourselves and see how we might be able to be more loving.
This is a tough one -- loving someone who isn't loving you. But it's the first step in how to make someone love you. If we don't make our love unconditional, how can we expect the person we want to love us to do that?
The second thing we can do is look at how we might be able to be more lovable. A lot of times this is a difficult thing to do -- to actually look at ourselves in the mirror and see how we might actually be contributing to the problem. Often we really want to focus on the other person, but if we look at ourselves and really give an honest assessment of what we are doing in the relationship and how we might be able to change some things to be a bit more lovable, oftentimes we will find some things.
One of the things that people bring up in counseling is their partner being critical. Sometimes it’s how the person is taking care of himself or herself that can be something that makes the partner feel that they are not lovable, or they can be more considerate. Oftentimes thinking about the other person’s needs can make a big difference in making ourselves more lovable.
If we're in a relationship with the person we want the love from, or have been in one with them, then most likely we've gotten feedback from them at some point about how we could love them better. If nothing is coming to mind, think harder. How to make someone love you has to include changes we can take to make ourselves more loveable.
So first, we can work on being more loving; second, we can work on being more lovable. The third thing we need to do is to not accept not being loved. This is a real tricky one because a lot of people mistakenly accept not being loved and stay in a relationship when they really should not. We’re going to focus on this because that is really the part that we can influence some control over and have some power in the relationship in our refusal to accept not being loved.
How to make someone love you starts with beginning to not accept not getting the love. We need to recognize that we deserve to be loved and expect that in the relationship from a partner. Some negotiation has to take place so that we figure out how to meet each other’s needs, but just that underlying idea that we deserve the love is really an important thing that we need to believe.
I explain more about how not to accept not being loved in the above video at the 4:33 time mark. Take a listen and also hear what the other Hangout participants had to say. The most important point of this post is that how to make someone love you has to begin with our focusing on us before we focus on them.
It's one of the things we men hope never happens to us -- our wife caught cheating. Yet it's becoming more and more common to hear husbands say they've caught their wife cheating.
Here's the story of one of those men, Fernando, who caught his wife cheating. He wants to know how to deal with a wife caught cheating. Maybe you do too (or maybe a husband). Keep reading and I'll tell you.
I feel betrayed since I caught my wife flirting through repeated glances with a security personnel standing on the casino hotel passage. She thought I was asleep in the hotel room. Another time not knowing that I walked around her back while she was playing a slot machine not concentrating on the play but attracting another guy. I saw all those acts of slutty behavior as a form of deceit. As if nothing happened, she even asked if I was there long. It is so painful and caused a very deep wound in my feelings for her. I wish I had not seen those situations. She keeps the same pattern of behavior with men from her younger days even as a married couple. I am now suffering with shock and negative thoughts and it is taking a toll on my health. I think this would be the end of our relationship and worth a divorce. I totally lost my trust and respect to her if there is anything left. I am really disturbed. How do you deal with wife caught cheating? - Fernando P.
What's interesting here is that if we take the above story and change Fernando from a husband to a wife, the feelings of "betrayed," "deceit," "shock," "negative thoughts," "divorce," and "disturbed" would all be the same. When a partner is caught cheating, the sex of the cheated on partner makes no difference. Men or women, husbands or wives, boyfriends or girlfriends, we all experience the same feelings.
So how do you deal with a wife caught cheating? The same way you would a husband or boyfriend who cheated. You get some professional counseling help. Cheating is one of the most overwhelming situations you can go through and navigating it alone is a big mistake. Okay, so it may sound like I'm just pushing counseling. Yes, I am, but not because I do it. Rather because counseling guidance is what's needed and it works.
I would also say Fernando that your feelings can change. Your wife can also change. And your lost trust and respect can change. A wife caught cheating doesn't have to automatically mean a divorce. Is it hard to change? Yes - very hard. And it's possible you or she may not be willing to. But I believe every relationship is worth at least trying to change before choosing divorce and all the pain and problems that come with it.
As we can see from Fernando's feelings, being cheated on is very painful and overwhelming. And it's easy to let those feelings drive you to taking actions that aren't the best for you in the long run -- like these guys Man Destroys Home With Boat After Wife Caught Cheating or Husband Drives SUV Into House After Catching Wife Cheating. So if you've caught your wife cheating, the first thing to do is to get some objective help. The same advice goes if you're a wife caught cheating.
Angry people can be hard to avoid. Sometimes it seems like they’re everywhere (and I say that knowing I can be one of them at times). We all need to have a few anger management tips so we can handle being around an angry person.
Some of us are even in intimate relationships with people who are angry a lot. A woman asked me yesterday in counseling for anger management tips to deal with her husband when he explodes at her or their kids. So tips for managing anger aren't just needed by those of us with anger problems; those who are around us also need them too.
Tips for anger management can sometimes seem pretty simple, but often it's the practice of them that makes them difficult. The following is one of those kinds of anger tips. Below is a post I wrote on my Google+ profile a few weeks ago about dealing with an angry person (you can read the comments others left on this post by clicking on the down arrow button at the end of it).
What can make applying anger management tips so hard is that it's so easy to get sucked in. The wife I described above feels she needs to step in to protect her kids, and in some instances she's right. The problem with that response though is that it feeds and rewards her husband's anger.
So what do we do? We need to remember the above principle about angry people - the battle they're fighting isn't with you, it's with themselves. Walking away takes away from them the distraction of the fight and the option to blame someone else for their feelings.
Men most commonly come to me for anger management help when they're forced to see the destructive consequences of their anger. And they see those results most clearly when they aren't distracted or able to excuse them.
The next time you have to deal with angry person, remember this anger management tip -- the best thing you can do tor them and you is not to give them an outlet for their anger. Let them sit with it. So just walk away.
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Are there dangers to dating while separated? You betcha - and for both of you.
Relationships have gotten really complicated these days. With people marrying less and divorcing more it's no wonder that the opportunity, and challenge, of dating while separated has become pretty commonplace.
I most often run into people dating while separated when they're separated themselves and involved with someone else who's separated too. A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.
One of the most common temptations people fall for when a relationship is ending is the desire to find a new love - and to do so right now! Often these people have been unhappy and missing love, companionship, and sex for a longtime, and so there's a real pent-up, unmet need for love.
Since I counsel men and women before, during and after a relationship or marriage, including through a divorce, I frequently see people dating when separated. And with the prevalence of cheating, a lot of times one partner has already begun a new relationship and the other partner is now seeking to get 'mine.'
Once it's been decided by one, or both, partners to end the relationship, most typically both of partners start seeking a new relationship. Being separated and not dating is one of the hardest temptations to resist. After all, you're free, right? Well, not really.
So what's the problem with dating while separated? Here are 5 reasons why it's a bad idea, a big mistake, and will only cause you - and her - a lot of heartache:
- You're Not Really Available. If you're ending a marriage, obviously you're not legally available to remarry until the divorce is final, which can take quite a bit of time (info about dating someone legally separated). But when all relationships end there's also a period of time that has to go by for the relationship to truly come to an end in other ways than just legally, and for everyone to be truly ready to begin a new relationship. Until that happens, none of us are really fully available.
- You're Not Ready. Now note that I didn't say you don't 'want' a new partner, because almost everyone does, but regardless of what you 'want,' you're not ready. No one is. You probably don't realize it, but you're not going to be ready emotionally or mentally while separated. And dating while separated interrupts this process.
- You Haven't Learned Your Lessons Yet. Regardless of what you want to believe, you're responsible too for your relationship failing. There are important lessons for all of us to learn from our failed relationships, about our partners and ourselves, that when learned help us to have more successful relationships in the future. Sadly, most people rob themselves of the opportunity to learn these and they most often do this is by dating when separated. If you don't take the time to learn from your failed relationship before jumping into a new one, you're very likely to repeat the same mistakes with the next person.
- It's Emotion, Not Reason. Getting into a new relationship when you're separated is going to be more about emotion than reason. Your new relationship will be more like a fantasy vacation than a real, day-to-day relationship. And a lot of the time it's driven more by wanting to escape the old relationship rather than really wanting to be in the new one.
- The Odds Are Really High It Won't Last. Nearly all relationships that begin during a separation won't last. If doesn't have to do with you or your new partner, but just the timing. You're starting on the wrong footing. It's not infrequent that I'm counseling people with big relationship problems around trust and insecurity that originate from their relationship having begun before the previous one ended.
If you really care about your new love interest then you'll apply more reason than emotion to your decision about dating while separated. You'll also make your decision about more than just what you want. Decide wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.
Do you think you can spot unhealthy relationships? From how far away?
Unhealthy relationships can be tricky sometimes to spot. It's easy to see that a relationship with domestic violence is not healthy, but not so much when partners are being caring towards each other. After all, a relationship with caring partners is healthy, right? Not always.
I don't think all outwardly caring behavior is always inwardly healthy. We have to dig below the behavior and examine the motivation for it to know for sure.
Most of us are familiar with the term, people pleasing. We're also aware that it's unhealthy, even though it often takes the form of caring behavior. Not many of us probably associate people pleasing with romantic relationships, but it can occur there too and create relationships that aren't healthy.
Here's a post I wrote on my Google+ profile about people pleasing. As you read it below (click 'Read more' to open it), keep in mind the distinction I made earlier between outward behavior and inward motives (You can read the comments others left on this Google+ post by clicking on the down arrow button at the end, and you can also leave a comment too).
A guy told me, and his wife, yesterday in couples counseling, "It's my job to make her happy." I disagreed. It's his job to care about his wife's happiness, and to do what he can to positively influence it, but her feelings are not his responsibility. Each of us is responsible for our own feelings.
One of the things that make this man's belief so dangerous in romantic relationships (and creates unhealthy relationships) is that he's trying to control something he cannot control. And it sets him up for huge disappointment and failure. The reality in this guy's relationship is that no matter how hard he tries, he just can't make her happy, and that's because it's not his job, it's hers. Another consequence of his belief is the neglect of his needs and ill will that arises from it.
Is it really any wonder why this couple has an unhappy, unfulfilling . . . unhealthy relationship? This guy is very sad and unhappy, and he says he's unhappy because his wife is unhappy, but it's really because he's wrongly made his happiness dependent upon hers.
Unhealthy relationships often have some form of people pleasing in them. It can occur for different reasons, but it always leads to the same outcome -- disappointment and failure. As I wrote in the Google+ post, people pleasing is a dangerous trap all of us can fall into. So we all must continually check our motives and make sure our caring behavior isn't for unhealthy reasons.
I'd love to hear your thoughts about people pleasing in romantic relationships and how it creates relationships that aren't healthy. Please leave a comment on this post below. If you like this post, you can sign-up on the right side of this page to get notified of each new post, and you can circle and follow me on Google+ (Kurt Smith on Google+) as I post daily relationship and self-improvement tips just like this one.
Falling out of love is a common problem for relationships that are in trouble. When it happens, it's easy to jump to a lot of conclusions about what that means. Let's look at some excerpts from my Google+ Hangout on Falling Out of Love and see what it really means:
Our topic this week is falling out of love. It's a follow-up from our discussion last week where we talked about when you’re loving somebody who's not loving you. This is a little bit of the flip side of that, where you actually fall out of love with the other person. It is actually fairly common that this happens at some point in some way or another. It happens to all of us. The relationship kind of lessens to some degree and then for some of us we actually do fall completely out of love with the other person. So it's not uncommon whatsoever.
One of the things that we really need to understand about love is that it's not a constant thing. Love is something that really does come and go and varies depending on what the status of the relationship is. A lot of relationships go through stages that affect how we feel about our partner, and that's normal. To expect that level should stay the same throughout our relationship is actually really problematic, and that is one of the expectations that gets people into a lot of trouble. They get into a situation where they fall out of love because they think that it should always stay the same.
So the first thing that can get us into trouble when we, or our partner, are falling out of love is the expectation that it should never happen. Wrong.
That's the first thing that we really have to kind of recognize: that it is normal to have some give-and-take and ebb and flow to how we feel about our partner. It is common for relationships to grow and to change and, to some degree, for us to grow apart if we are not intentional about growing together. Because if we are not constantly nourishing and growing our relationships, we do at times feel like we are falling out of love with our partner. It is important that we recognize that that is normal and it is okay.
The most important part is that we actually do something about it. This is where a lot of couples miss opportunities to be able to keep the relationship together because they are not working actively at engaging with their partner and identifying this when it starts to happen.
The next thing to note is that we shouldn't be surprised when falling out of love happens, but actually should expect to fall out of love if we're not both working to grow the relationship. We're either growing together or growing apart.
So the first thing is to recognize is that this is normal and the second part to be aware of is actually addressing it. This is where a lot of people really fall apart; they make assumptions when they are not feeling that connected to their partner, when they are feeling that they are not loving them anymore or are not in love with them. That is a common phrase that I hear a lot in counseling, particularly from men: they still love their partner, but they are not in love with their partner. A lot of guys really make a distinction there, and this is where some of the assumptions get us into trouble.
We assume that we should still feel the same way about our partner as we did when we first met them, and that is just not going to be practical. The awareness of loving the other person, but not being in love them is one of the things that often happens around feeling like we are falling out of love. Too many people feel that when they reach the stage where they are not loving their partner that it means the relationship should be over; that is just not the case. Again, it is typical that this can happen, and it really comes about from us not addressing some things and actually nourishing the relationship. It can get corrected if we will actually address it.
The biggest, and easiest, mistake we can make when falling out of love is to believe that it means the relationship is over. We must remember that just like there were things we did and did not do that caused us to fall out of love, the same is true for falling back in love.
The problem that I run into with a lot of people that actually come to see me for counseling help is that they have reached a point where they have just decided that this means the relationship should be over. A lot of people at that place have actually already checked out of the relationship; they actually take the feeling of not being loved anymore or loving their partner and they step out of the relationship and get their needs met in other ways. This is where affairs often happen and originate out of how we reach out and get over-focused at work and hobbies and other things that get us distracted from having to focus on our partner.
A common thing for people is that they really avoid this issue. A lot of times this is originating from us avoiding addressing our feelings and sharing it with our partner. I want to add this point: love is a feeling that changes. It's not a constant, and that's okay and that's normal. It's just important that we do something about it. When we're not feeling as connected with our partner, we need to address trying to get reconnected and grow back together. Falling out of love is normal. The real key is what we do with it.
Read those last two sentences again. The truth is that falling out of love is normal and happens in all relationships. The most important thing is what we choose to do about it.
None of us wants to think about our partner cheating. Certainly not before it happens. But taking the time to learn how to stop cheating is one of the best ways to prevent cheating from ever happening in our relationship.
Like everything else, prevention is so much easier than reacting after cheating's happened and trying to recover. Affairs are one of the most difficult events for couples to recover from. It's not impossible, and I've helped many do it, but it's a really tough road and it's so much better to never let cheating occur in the first place.
How we stop cheating is by never giving it a chance to start. The couple I'm counseling in the marriage I describe below planted the seeds for her to cheat years before the cheating ever started. When these partners stopped making the effort to love each other, and they both did this, the opportunity for cheating began.
This is a post I wrote on Google+ about how cheating starts, but it also shows how to stop cheating too (read the whole post by clicking "Read more" after the first line). This post got a lot of comments, which you can read by clicking the down arrow button next to "Comments" at the end of it. If you want, you can leave a comment on the Google+ post as well or at the end of this page.
This couple didn't know it, but they stopped doing the most important factor in how to stop cheating -- loving each other. This is never a one-time event (like forgetting your anniversary) and most often not even a conscious decision. Rather, slowly over time partners make less and less of an effort to love each other.
We can stop cheating before it even has a chance to start just by focusing on loving our partner. Not once in a while, not just on holidays and special occasions, nor only when they deserve it, but daily. When we're feeding our relationship with love, cheating never has a chance to start.
This may seem like a, "no duh," answer to how to stop cheating. Yet the most common reason people have affairs is because they're not getting their needs met by their partner. There can be a lot more to why people cheat than just this, but after you shift through it all it still comes back to the basic ingredient that all relationships need -- partners loving each other.
Please share your thoughts on how to stop cheating by leaving a comment on this post below. I'd like to hear what you think, and if you have more ideas about how we can stop cheating, please share them.
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It's usually easier for us all to see other's problems than it is to see our own. This is especially true when it comes to seeing signs of an abusive relationship. It's much easier to spot an abusive relationship when you're on the outside looking in, than it is when we're in the middle of one.
Read the following submission I received from a man named Scott and see what signs of an abusive relationship you can spot in his situation:
Hi my name is Scott. I recently (June 2013) moved in with my fiancée. But I think she can be my common law wife? She has two older kids of her first marriage. 15 year old son and a 19 year old daughter. She has a strong temper. It's very hard to adjust since I never had kids of my own. I am planning to have my first child with her though.
Anyway, we both have hurt each other emotionally and sometimes physically. When we fight it's all about insults. I am the one who always apologizes, but she keeps fighting, insults, orders me around. She gets anxiety attacks when she fights. My problem was that I tried to stop her leaving the house. That's when she gets violent and throws things at the floor, uses anything to hit me, injures me. When we don't fight it's great. I want this relationship to work. We just got a new house, I got her a vehicle, some furniture. I have her very spoiled. I can't say no to anything she wants.
So how many signs of an abusive relationship did you find?
I think there are at least 13 signs, and potentially even more depending on how hard you look. That may seem like a lot, but actually having that many is not that unusual. Abuse in relationships is typically very subtle and in-depth in the ways in which the abuse occurs.
Here are the abusive relationship signs I see in Scott's relationship and why:
- "She has a strong temper" -- One or both people can have a temper
- "We both hurt each other emotionally and sometimes physically" -- Abuse is not always one sided or just physical
- "When we fight it's all about insults" -- Verbal abuse is a common sign of abusive relationships; notice how it gets personal and not just about the original subject of the fight
- "I am the one who always apologizes" -- Abusive relationships typically have one person who seeks to keep the peace; one of the ways to try to do this is to over apologize
- "She keeps fighting" -- Abusers almost always won't stop until they win
- "Orders me around" -- Control and manipulation are common tools of an abuser
- "I tried to stop her leaving the house" -- Victims of abuse can resort to using control too, for good reasons, but with bad results
- "She gets violent and throws things at the floor" -- Physical aggression isn't a requirement for a relationship to be abusive, but it often occurs
- "She uses anything to hit me, injures me" -- Physical aggression can easily turn into domestic violence
- "When we don't fight it's great" -- People in relationships with abuse often tell themselves that the relationship is really good despite the level of abuse
- "I want this relationship to work" -- There can be desperation, not just desire, to hold on to the relationship
- "We just got a new house, I got her a vehicle, some furniture. I have her very spoiled" -- Trying to please an abuser with the hope that by doing so the abuse will stop never works
- "I can't say no to anything she wants" -- Being controlled is a sure sign of an abusive relationship
Scott is like a lot of people in relationships with abuse, they know something's not right, but they're not quite sure what, and they either have no idea they're in an abusive relationship, or no idea how bad the abuse really is. It's also important to note that men can be just as likely to be the victim of abuse, like Scott, as they can be to be the abuser.
It typically takes a trained professional counselor to spot all the signs of an abusive relationship. A counselor is definitely needed to navigate the difficult path to changing or exiting one. So don't resist asking for help. It's not possible to do it alone and keeping silent is another sign you're in an abusive relationship.
A lot of men go to to anger management because they get told to go by their partners. They’re often told, "Go get your anger issues fixed." But what often gets overlooked, or rather ignored, is where a lot of anger issues in men come from.
Men who struggle with anger management (me too) need to take full responsibility for managing their emotions. However, partners and others around us also need to be willing to look at their contribution to anger issues in men.
A common complaint I hear in counseling men is that their partner ‘nags’ them. This behavior not only fuels men's issues with anger, but also their loss of interest in their partner (Hint to the partners: nagging is a real ‘turn-off’). Unfortunately, in a lot of relationships there's not honest communication and so this important information goes unshared.
Here’s a post I wrote for my Google+ profile about the connection between ‘nagging’ and anger management problems. What I describe fits for a lot of relationships where the men have anger issues (read the whole post by clicking "Read more" after the second line). Take a look through the comments (click the down arrow button next to "Comments" at the end of the post) and see whom you can relate to (you can leave a comment on the Google+ post as well or on this page).
So what do you think? A lot of guys will probably say, "You're right. Her constant asking does make me angry." And a lot of partners, particularly women, will probably ask, "What am I supposed to do to get him to do things?"
One of the challenges with anger issues in men is that the anger, and its consequences, often covers over the real problems. Which, in the case of nagging, is the need to find more effective communication techniques and fixing the reason why nagging is necessary on the first place (a couple of common reasons are us guys keeping our promises and doing our fair share around the house).
It's important to note that it's not just men who have anger issues; women can have issues with anger too. Like all emotions, anger is telling us something. In the case of anger, it tells us something is wrong. So it's really important that we don't ignore that message and get so distracted with stopping the anger that we miss fixing what's really causing it.
Obviously, 'nagging' isn't the only cause of anger issues in men. But whatever the causes, we need to be sure to dig deep enough into the problem to get to the true problem. Better, more honest communication by both men and their partners is one of the ways we can get to the bottom of the problem while also reducing men's anger issues. Win-Win.
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