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Depressed Men? "Yes, Virginia there really is a Santa Clause (and depressed men)." And truthfully, there are a lot more of them than most people think. They can just be a little hard to spot.
A lot of men struggle with looking at other women. Here's a submission I received from just such a guy and my recommendations on how he can learn to stop.
When you discover you've been cheated on you feel a range of emotions -- shock, anger, hurt, just to name a few -- and often at their extremes. At some point everyone shifts from feeling to thinking and wants to know how do cheaters feel. Is he or she feeling any pain like I am?
When marriages fall apart, it's pretty typical that one partner wants to end it and the other does not. The partner wanting to save the marriage then gets stuck (literally) trying to answer the question of how to know when your marriage is really over.
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Wives tell me "my husband doesn't love me anymore" all the time in couples counseling. It's not just wives in counseling who feel that their husbands don't love them either, and a lot of them are right (Learn What Are The Signs He Doesn't Love Me Anymore).
Most guys believe what turns women on about men is . . . being tall and good looking, having big muscles and six-pack abs, hair on our heads, and definitely having a big house, fancy car and the financial means to give them whatever they want. Wrong - this maybe true for some women, but not for most.
So why do men watch porn? The answer is not as simple as you may think. Most people immediately think it's because men like, want, or are "obsessed" with sex. Those are some of the reasons they're drawn to porn, but not the real reasons why men watch it.
We all can say things that hurt someone else. Intentional or by accident, it's easy for our words to hurt. But when there's a pattern of hurtful words within a relationship, especially in a marriage, it's time to start thinking about how to deal with verbal abuse in marriage.
In the beginning we love almost everything about our partner, but overtime that naturally changes as we discover the flaws we all have. Yet in some relationships the loss of love isn't just over a few things we don't like, it goes much deeper and there can be signs he doesn't love me anymore.
Is there really such a thing as 'man o pause?' Many people might argue that it's a made up concept to feel sorry and make excuse for the selfish behavior of men. Maybe. Maybe not.