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My Wife is Crazy - or is She? Find Out.

Posted by Lorin Harrott, GSCC Website Manager on Wed, Jun 21, 2017

Everyone has occasional mood swings and displays of emotional behavior. But, have you ever found yourself in a situation where you think, "my wife is crazy?" I don't mean in the wild and fun way, but in the I'm-not-sure-she-should-handle-knives way. Erratic behavior can occur for a variety of reasons, but it is possible that your wife is experiencing something common to women, but not often discussed.

Does your wife break down into tears for no apparent reason, or has she suddenly developed panic attacks or a drastically shorter temper? Maybe she has developed anxiety that she cannot shake, or has nightmares more often than ever before. All these behaviors may have you thinking, "my wife crazy." You might start to believe your wife needs mental health help, but what she may actually need is a gynecologist.
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How Marijuana Addiction Impacts Couples and Relationships

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Thu, Jun 08, 2017

Many people smoke pot and think it's no big deal. Most of them would laugh at the suggestion that marijuana addiction could possibly apply to them.

Yet I'm finding in my clinical counseling work more and more people who are using marijuana for what they say are "recreational or medicinal" purposes, but are having relational problems because of it. Sadly, most of them don't see any connection between the two or the possibility that they may have developed an addiction to marijuana.
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Is No Intimacy in Marriage Normal?

Posted by Lorin Harrott, GSCC Website Manager on Wed, May 24, 2017

It's been a long day. Most days are, right? At the end of the day you might feel lucky just to have showered, exercised or gotten through the variations of bedtimes, homework, or work emergencies. You head to the bedroom and now it's time to cozy up with your partner to enjoy the connection that marriage brings, right? But what if you find no intimacy in marriage?

Maybe the thought of kissing your spouse now seems foreign, or like too much work. Or, you are certain your spouse is equally as exhausted and you both are better off sleeping rather than being intimate. Does this sound familiar?
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What To Do When Your Husband Wants Divorce

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Thu, May 11, 2017

A common scenario in troubled marriages is that one spouse wants to end it while the other wants to stay together. I met with a couple yesterday where the husband wants divorce. This is frequently the case in the marriage counseling I do with spouses. In fact, 2 other couples yesterday had a partner who felt the same way.

It's important to note that it's not always the husband who wants divorce. Just as often it can be the wife who wants to leave. Another common pattern in these struggling relationships is partners having allowed their relationship to drift apart until one or both believes it cannot be fixed and therefore the relationship must end. And both men and women are equally guilty of doing this. Unfortunately, the growing feelings of discontent are most often ignored for a long time and aren't dealt with until more damage has been done.
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What are the Signs of Cheating?

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Wed, Apr 26, 2017

Sometimes it's obvious, while other times it's much less so. The signs of cheating can be right in your face or completely hidden from view.

Many times the discovery starts with a question - Has he always locked his phone? I thought she told me she was going to her friend's? Signs of cheating can be as simple as questions like these in the beginning.
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What is Anger Management Counseling?

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Tue, Apr 11, 2017

Getting mad is something that everyone does, so it can be hard to determine when it's normal and when it's a problem. But if you're wondering if it could be a problem for you, then anger management counseling is for you.

Sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to recognize when you need help. The next hardest thing can then be to ask for help, especially if you're a man. But you don't have to know for sure you need help with anger problems before getting anger management counseling. That's what it does is help you figure that out. Here's a little secret - a lot of people need it (and everyone can benefit from learning the techniques it teaches).
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Need Anger Problems Help? Start Here

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Apr 08, 2017

It's pretty common that the person looking for anger problems help isn't the person with the problem. Most people who need help with their anger don't realize it (been there), or deny it (done that too), or both.

If you've landed on this article searching for anger problems help you're most likely either: 1) the partner of, or someone who cares about, a person who gets angry; or 2) the person who gets angry. Your perspective is important to recognize because it will influence how you interpret the rest of this article.
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Am I in a Relationship with a Narcissist?

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Mar 25, 2017

It is becoming pretty common to hear people use the negative label of narcissist to describe an ever-increasing number of people - from Millennials, to presidential candidates, or an annoying boss. And more and more people are thinking that they're in a relationship with a narcissist too.

At Guy Stuff we hear from thousands of people every day who are trying to understand what's wrong with their partner. Why do they do what they do? Why do they treat me (the person they say they love) the way they do? One explanation that we regularly hear is, "He is a narcissist."
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How to Recognize Male Menopause Symptoms

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Sat, Mar 11, 2017

Menopause is so commonly associated with women that any suggestion that men can go through it too must be a joke, right? Wrong. Male menopause symptoms are real.

Most articles on symptoms of male menopause focus on the physiological signs, such as erectile dysfunction or insomnia. What are equally or even more important are the psychological and behavioral signs. Most people do not realize there is a problem until extreme behavior arises such as telling a partner, "I don't love you anymore," moving out, or filing for divorce.
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Is 'Manopause' Real Or Fake?

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Fri, Mar 10, 2017

Is there really such a thing as 'manopause?' Many people might argue that it's a made up concept to feel sorry and make an excuse for the selfish behavior of men. Maybe. Maybe not.

The idea behind manopause is that men go through physical changes at middle life similar to the hormonal changes women experience with menopause. Certainly possible since it is now well documented that men also experience a reduction in hormone production too (i.e. low testosterone). Commonly such biological changes to our bodies also create psychological changes as well. The behaviors that frequently accompany these mental changes are often labeled a midlife crisis in men by a lot of people.
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