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Part 3 of 3 on Porn for Women
It’s no secret that many men are turned on by and enjoy porn.
And when asked and being honest, most of those men will tell you they don’t see a problem with porn.
But what do women think about porn?
Before you read any further, take a moment and consider what you believe most women think about porn.
As with men, women’s opinions about porn can vary. But if you guessed that most women feel somewhere between conflicted about porn and wholly against it, you’d be on the right track.
It shouldn’t be surprising that most women are less interested and accepting of porn. It’s something that most believe sets unrealistic expectations about sex and creates a form of intangible competition for the attention of the men they love.
As you’ll see below, for women the overall effect of porn from a psychological perspective can be very detrimental.
In the last 2 articles, we answered the questions: Do Women Like Porn? And, Do Women Watch Porn?
Now let's hear from some real women and find out what do women think about porn.
Below are excerpts from the comments section of just one of our articles on porn, the majority of which are aimed at examining men and porn.
In response to the article, Why Men Watch Porn, many women have written in to express their opinion and explain how porn makes them feel.
Here is what just a few of those women think about porn and what it does to them when their husbands or boyfriends choose to watch it:
What are you noticing about how these women think and feel about porn?
See any themes here?
So, how do women feel about porn?
These women make it very clear that they feel porn is selfish and dishonest among other things.
It makes them feel like they’re not good enough for their partner and not important enough. They feel betrayed, hurt, and angry.
The impact of porn on a woman’s self-esteem can be devastating. Not to mention the effects it has on the trust and intimacy in their relationship.
While many men feel that porn is a victimless pastime, as you can see, many women will tell you something very different. And it’s these feelings that need to be considered more by the men in their lives.
Porn can be a very touchy subject in relationships. Ultimately, whether it has a place in yours is a personal decision.
But in making that decision, understanding what women really think about porn is crucial.
So, if you’re trying to determine what to do about your porn viewing and if the woman in your life will be (or really is) accepting of it, remember the following things:
For more information related to women and porn, read the first 2 articles in this series and you'll know this isn't what all women think about porn (links are in the Related Articles section below).
But these comments by far represent how the majority of women we work with and hear from at Guy Stuff think and feel about porn.
You can read even more comments from women about porn on these popular posts:
What do you think about porn? Please share your thoughts with others below.
Editor's Note: This post was originally published July 21, 2012, updated on December 12, 2019 and has been updated again with new information for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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Kat-- I completely agree with your post. I don't mean to be unkind to men, but there IS something sad, pathetic and childish about a man choosing to masturbate to a photo or movies rather than actually engaging in the act with a real woman. I am saddened that this is what "men" have become.
@Susanne, I would agree with your post if you would simply replace the word "choosing" with "enslaved". From personal experience, I would be so bold as to say that no man who views pornography and/or masturbates on a regular basis can stop on their own. No matter how many times they say they will, they just do it over and over again. Most of the time this is why they keep it a secret: because it is something they are ashamed of but can't stop doing.
I, in fact, am starting to get counseling because I have this exact problem. But I just can't stand it when I see women saying their man chooses porn over them.
Anonymous, Thanks for sharing the truth. Glad to hear you're getting help. -Kurt
You know what, many men I know feel the same way when they discover their girlfriend has a dildo / vibrater, and especially when it is bigger than them. They feel as if they are not enough either. I'm thinking, if we'd be using the 'bigger dildo' while watching some videos that focus on some very well trained hot men, or do webcam sex with a hot man, they'd react the same way. Basically, most women aren't interested in doing this, so their boyfriends don't have to cope with the problem. WHen the situation is turned around, many of them would react the same.
I must say that I want to stop watching porn because I realize what began as the next big thing to do as a teenager has now become much more, affecting my life in ways I never signed up for.
I want to read a really strong and well worded write up on this, which will change my life forever, because words do have the power to change me. If anyone knows where I can do this, I would be grateful.
A Guy, It typically takes much more than reading a good write-up on porn to break the habit. Start by reading all the posts on this site under Porn Addiction and you'll understand more. -Kurt
You can do this. Knowing that you should quit is very important. I don't think that alot of guys even realize this.... I think that you might be a bit smarter than most guys. It took my husband years and he also started as a teenager. He said he wanted to quit several times but couldn't. He actually broke down and asked me for help. He asked me to take the modem with me to work! After a little while I set up web filters and put the modem back. Also got him the sports channels. Maybe you just need someone to talk to. A sponsor so to speak. A real person in your life that you can trust and keep you in check. Most people are not able to conquer their own addictions all alone after all....
Christa: My husband quit watching porn for me. It took a few years but... Our sex life is better now. I set up web filters so that he can't look at porn. He actually told me that he couldn't quit looking at porn without my help. I also make sure that we have sex regularly to make it easier on him. We don't have any kids but... I always think about IF we did have kids. IF I had boys I would set up parental controls to the maximum. They deserve a chance at having a normal marriage one day! Things will keep getting worse in the porn world and you have to keep them in check. I use opendns.
Linsey, Thanks for sharing your story. It typically does take help from others. The filters are not fool proof and porn can be accessed even with them in place so more safeguards are required, but they can be a good place to start. -Kurt
Thank you Kurt for your input. I am interested to know how these security measures can be bypassed. I am pretty confident that I have covered all bases... I have basic IT knowledge. This is too much information but, My husband and I just had sex an hour ago and it was great. No more worries there... Before he quit porn It was like I was forcing him to have sex... And He was only half hard. Not much fun for me. My only current problem is being unable to take the web-filters down... I still don't think I can trust him. I was very DAMAGED by the porn and lying. He lied to me for two years before he finally reached out for my help. I told him that I might need therapy for myself to be normal again. I don't even know if that is possible. Things are so much better now but, any advice for a broken woman?
Linsey, Yes, get therapy. -Kurt
It's so sad to see all these comments that I can totally relate to. - when I snooped on .you husband's phone for the last time I found absolutely no pictures of our family, a photo of himself and his favorite port clips. When questioning him about this he beat me while yelling that he can't stand looking at me nor hearing the tone of my voice anymore. He beat me so severely that I had to call 911 and they took him to jail. The state of MD trialed him for 2nd degree assault. We are divorced now. I hope the port was worth all this to him.
Are you serious? What kind of behavior is this? Sounds like you're disciplining or punishing a child. Web filters, etc..how pathetic. Seems that most females posting on here share the same views. This is neurotic behaviour. When women start opening a book or reading online about the basics of biochemistry, some understanding of the brains neurotransmitters and endocrinology, the study of the hormones, you will then heal yourselves, because realizing there are fundamental differences between the sexes is step 1. Step 2 is overcoming your insecurities, increasing you self-esteem and ridding yourself from anxiety and depression. When you ladies stop looking at the symptom of being a male human being and see the cause by understanding that men are visual, you will then stop your futile effort into changing the way your husbands/boyfriend/partners are wired.
George - I think it would benefit both genders to try to understand each other. Based on what you’ve said here, it appears that you believe all the effort here needs to be about how women need to understand men and men not taking the same measure to understand women. Instead, you chose to shame the woman above calling her ‘pathetic’ or having ‘neurotic behavior’. Do you really think that’s okay?
It is one thing to understand each other’s bio-chemistry. It’s another when either a man or a woman use their hormones (bio-chemistry) to be selfish, exploit the other gender, or be self-gratifying, expecting the other gender to accept their crappy behavior because of ‘hormones’.
You talk about how men are wired. What about how women are wired? Do you even understand anything about how women are wired? Do you really not get that it feels crappy knowing your man is looking at all these other women and lusting after them? Do you really expect that to be behavior that builds trust, love and respect?
You assume it’s women’s insecurities that they feel this way. It’s not. It’s about how we are wired too. And you, and men in general, are not the more ‘secure’ gender with healthier self-esteem just because you defend oggling women 24/7. Or just because you feel insecure about different things. So please spare us about you lecturing women about their insecuritiesand self esteem. Because your response here easily shows your own insecurities on this topic as well. Further, any woman has the right to feel naturally insecure when their partner is looking at all these over the top fantasy images of other women. And if you can’t understand that , that you have absolutely no compassion or empathy whatsoever. Just be lucky that most women out there aren’t stockpiling images of men who makes tons of money, masturbating to them, and then telling their regular boyfriends and husbands that she just really like these kind of men and it’s her fantasy. Lets see how men would respond to that.
I totally agree with your first point. We definitely should try and understand about both genders, their similarities and biological differences. From your reply it seems that you believe I am biased against the females. Correct me if I’ve misunderstood. I am r commenting on a thread which has an overwhelming majority of females complaining about their significant others porn viewing, so this is what I'm replying to. I’m not taking a side here. Don’t let my name stir up prejudice. I hope I’d be writing the exact same opinions if I were female. The pathetic and neurotic behavior was not targeted at one person. It’s targeted to many who seem to have the same views and are going about things in a way that is counter to what we have said. (Tantamount to punishing a child/Caught my husband watching porn, don’t know what to do etc.).
My opinion is once the basics I outlined in my first post are understood, there should be no need for effort. Effort to do what? To suppress what we are? Do you think that would create a good outcome, or the opposite coupled with resentment for the "victim"?
I don’t disagree with your second paragraph either, but the focus of my reply is on women’s opinions of men watching porn.
Of course there are selfish, exploitative personality traits in humans, but that’s not the issue here. It seems that you are writing from emotion rather than logic. My point is that if people knew more about the sexes, they wouldn’t feel “so crappy” as you put it when they find the man that loves them (yes really loves them) relieving his innate urges over a screen. If anything, I believe internet pornography may have saved a lot of relationships from infidelity. Suppressing someone’s nature is not the solution. I believe understanding it is. Thanks.
George, I find it strange that you think my response was based on the gender of your name and not the actual things you said. It tells me that you may have not understood my previous comments at all. You said that if you were a woman, you’d like to think your response would be the same. It probably wouldn’t be though. Especially if you’ve had some of the experiences some of the women here have had. That’s what different experiences do for you. They give you different perspectives.
Lets just look at the list of things you automatically label women with in attempt to discredit them. You call them: 1. Pathetic. 2. Neurotic. 3. Insecure. 4. Anxious. 5. Depressed. You lecture women about ‘opening a book or reading online”...(As if women don’t already do these things.) You even say, “When you ladies stop.........” This is a very accusatory statement where you clearly believe it’s women’s responsibility to change their feelings, thoughts and actions here in favor of men still exercising the freedom to continue on however they may wish. You completely ignore women’s own biological factors and drive in favor of supporting the idea that men’s biological factors simply are of more importance here.
Women are not ‘pathetic’ or ‘neurotic’ because they are upset over their partner’s porn use. Women have come here to be open and honest and express themselves in situations they feel absolutely alienated in, disconnected from in their partners and at a lose how to stay open to a relationship where their partners are taking advantage of their loyalty and trust. And you come here and decide to shame them for it. Wanting them to be silent or seek help only if it means that the man is free to do whatever he wants. And you justify it because of ‘biology’. Yet you don’t stop to think about women’s biology.
You do realize that how men interact with porn is very, very, very much about men’s feelings right? Biology not withstanding. There is a strong emotional component for men here. How would you look upon a woman calling men ‘pathetic’ for looking at porn? I would safely bet you wouldn’t like it and would even argue against it. Yet you call women ‘pathetic’. So don’t give women unjust labels for not liking that their partners look at porn and doing the best they can to sort out these difficult feelings. For coming to this place and sharing deeply personal and difficult things. Women don’t come here so that you can shame them and try to convince them to accept crappy behavior in a relationship.
Actually, human being’s selfish, exploitive personality traits are exactly part of the issue here. You really don’t think men who choose to ues porn aren’t being somewhat selfish? Or exploitive of women? Porn sets up hugely unrealistic standards that no regular woman can meet. It’s extremely exploitative of women in general and the majority of porn is purely about what makes men happiest. There is no room for true partnership, true sexual enjoyment or freedom because porn uses women as if they exist as props to serve men’s whims and fancies. Not to even get into how alarmingly and strangely violent, abusive and angry a lot of porn has become specifically toward women as targets of this abuse or fetishizing any woman who isn’t under the age of 25 with a hot little tight body.
Please tell me which part of my comments was ‘emotional’ and not ‘logic’? I think I’ve been resoundingly logical and calm. I have argued against your points with logic and reason. By the way, every human being on earth, men included, have the opinions they have because of a combination of fact, life experiences and emotions. You, and men in general, are no more logical about the topic of porn then anyone else. Your opinion is rooted in a combination of your own feelings, fact and life experience just like every other woman or man. While I know men like to consider themselves nothing if logical, that’s just not the case. Men are just as human as anyone else and when it comes to porn, it’s very much about their feelings.
You may believe that the internet porn has saved a lot of relationships from infidelity but that’s not rooted in the logic or biology. Please check out an article about this topic on Psychology Today called “Is Porn Really Destroying 500,000 Marriages Annually.” Check out this link too: https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/gq-magazine-tells-men-quit-watching-porn-before-it-ruins-your-sex-life
Porn isn’t something that’s keeping men from infidelity. It’s something that is feeding men’s brains to not be present with their partner. It’s something that only seems to grow expectations around sex, how women are suppose to be to please men and it’s a never ending loop that seems to push boundaries. It never actually even fully satisfies a man. It only creates an environment where he has to keep turning back for more. Women feel disrespected and cheated out of things in their relationships because men are infact disrespecting them and cheating out of things. A lot of women consider porn an act of betrayal and infidelity onto itself. So saying something like, “Hey, at least men aren’t out there sleeping with actual women”, seems to be a very low barometer for how men are suppose to show up in relationships.
It is not about ‘suppressing’ one’s nature. It’s about showing self-control. There is a world of difference between ‘suppressing one’s nature” and exercising your self-control. Especially when you’re in a relationship and it’s no longer just about you. The reality is that both genders like it when the other gender exercises self control. Men like it when their partners have control of their emotions. When women don’t lash out at them just because they feel like it. And women like it when their partners have control of their emotions too. When men don’t justify all their behaviors simply because they get horny.
By the way, men have survived for generations without internet porn. And many were able to not engage in infidelity. But if you really believe this is the only thing that stops men from cheating on the women they claim they love, then men need to start looking inward and really ask themselves what really matters to them. A life time of porn use or the actual real women in their actual real life that share their lives with them everyday.
If you don’t have the capability or desire to be monogamous or loyal to your partner in a relationship, don’t be. But don’t get into a relationship where your partner has expectations around your loyalty and commitment to the relationship and then turn them into the bad guy when they get upset that you’ve failed to keep up your end of the bargin. This is about having emotional maturity and realizing that when you’re in a relationship, it’s not all about you.
Firstly, I will try to make something clear.
You are misquoting what I wrote. I was under the impression that this was a discussion/debate where we can share thoughts, opinions and ideas. That’s not to say you don’t have to adhere to those standards, but misquoting me simply shows that you are either trolling, do not understand or even want to understand what I have written or you are simply arguing for the sake of doing so in an attempt to discredit my comments. That’s ok, you have every right I believe to do that here (not too sure of the rules tbh) but before I directly answer your response, I wanted to take this opportunity to make the misrepresentation clear for the readers that also view this topic as I do (discussion/exchange of ideas and opinions). To save me the expense of rewriting what I wrote in my previous post with a different choice of words, please reread it again carefully and reply only when you are in a non-emotional state of mind, as I’m a firm believer that any actions taken under the influence of emotion, are usually the wrong actions. If you are still doubting my intentions, please clearly state if I am discrediting women by characterizing them as insecure, anxious etc.… These are a state of mind that both genders may exhibit. You seem to believe that I think only women feel.
More alarming however, is your perception that labeling someone anxious or depressed is accusatory!! If you have this perception, it is extremely sad to say the least and displays lack of compassion from you and a total disregard for mental illnesses and those who suffer them unwillingly. Nevertheless, this is a topic I do not wish to delve into as I believe the readers would not appreciate an off-topic discussion.
It’s very easy to misrepresent someone in attempt to make a point but it usually occurs when the person who doing so finds it difficult to come up with a substantive reply. I totally agree with your other points regarding self-control and mutual respect, and a man can only have a successful relationship with a woman if he understands her as much as he understands himself. I can see that you are intelligent, but I must not allow for generalizations and statements I make regarding certain posts to be taken out of context. I saw a post where someone was saying something along these lines: "I've installed NETNANNY, i've done this I've done that. The person even stated that she went as far as denying him sex as if that is something that only men enjoy. It's these anachronistic behaviours that I see that are problematic that I point out. I'm definitely not accusing women or men for that matter of being any better or worse. I'm commenting on what I've read, whether it was written by a man/woman is irrelevant for me.
I’ve learnt that you cannot help those who do not want or perhaps even have the capacity to help themselves. It may sound crude, but unfortunately admitting reality is some people’s greatest fear, hence why we see so many unhappy people and wonder why those who are generally “balanced” enjoy life.
Moreover, I will state my opinions whether you like it or not! How’s that? Do you feel angry? Can you relate to the way you’re feeling now? Introspection can do wonders.
I’m not implying anything but I can definitely assume that if this is the style of communication you use with your partner you should not be surprised if you’re not getting your way. With the views you have expressed I can only commend your partner for standing their ground as only a pushover would tolerate such authoritarianism in this day and age.
I myself believe in equality and mutual respect.
If my aforementioned hypothetical is true for you or anyone likeminded, I would recommend that it’s time to change yourself by applying the solution I provided above in my first post. If you would like further details, please do not hesitate to ask for my contact details. I would gladly oblige to offer assistance free of charge. Nobody is perfect. After all, helping others to be happier is the most beautiful gift we can give to each other during this short life we live. Besides, you have nothing whatsoever to lose. At the end of the day, swallow your pride, ignore the nagging stubbornness and give it a chance. if it fails you can continue complaining. As long as that makes you happy, who am I to judge?
Last but not least, it is important that I state that it was not my intention to make you or anyone else reading my comments feel uncomfortable by conjuring up past negative experiences. I sincerely wish anyone going through turmoil the best of luck and to know that with sheer determination and persistence we can overcome any obstacle.
I thank you and appreciate your time and hope some readers may find my response valuable to them.
--George
You could not state my frame of thought better. Thank you!
sorry, my statement You couldn't have expressed my feelings better than you did, was meant for you not George.
Oh my god you have made my day with this response. Thank you for this.
Great comments and thoughts. Thanks for standing up to this selfish guy that’s just trying to excuse himself though verbally assaulting women. Porn is a frequent struggle for me that I’ve mostly managed to beat. Many of the popular sites indicate that women love it and accept it, although I suspected that wasn’t true, which was confirmed by the many women posting here and the article itself.
Hey Paul, Thanks for commenting. That's an important and unfortunate point you make that a lot of popular websites present porn as appealing to women when that's not true for many of them, as you can see from the comments on this and other articles on this site. Congrats on battling it yourself. Be prepared that it can be a lifetime challenge, but is controllable. -Dr. Kurt
George, I would encourage you to check out this page on my site regarding Porn Addiction: http://www.guystuffcounseling.com/porn-addiction. Porn is tricky and has many side effects that most men are unaware of. Also, consider reading the other articles on the blog regarding Porn Addiction for more information. It's more complicated than you might think. -Kurt
Hi, I would just like to share a few things with you Georgy boy. I'm 23, aprox 5'7" and weigh about 150. I have a month old son and I look pretty damn good for just having a baby. Before my son's father and I got together, I had been abused mentally, physically, emotionally, and verbally by past relationships. I've always been a bit curvy and never seemed to fill out a C cup properly. When we first got together, despite all of my insecurities, he made me feel like the sexiest woman alive. I explored sexual experiences with him, wore outfits and even went as far as giving him that visual experience, we had videos and photos of our sexual experiences together. And then the porn became a problem, I warned him off the bat that I'm ready and willing for anything except porn or a 3 way, and he broke what we had together. I have tried to calmly talk to him about how it makes me feel and why, I've written him a 3 page letter just so that we could avoid the face to face confrontation and I've cried many times. It got to the point where I felt if he needed porn so much, and that our videos etc. we're not enough and that he couldn't respect me then he didn't deserve to keep the collection we had and I made him delete every single thing...all in hopes that it would open his eyes, mind and heart to what it was doing, not only to me but to our relationship. So, I just had our son on March 6th and I didn't even wait an entire month before having sexual relations again, and during the time that I absolutely could not have sex, I preformed sexual acts for him... Then yesterday I caught him again with porn. Got back from running errands and every single time I leave the house, I feel that he is watching porn again, so I snooped into his Google search history and sure enough xnxx shows up. He lied of course, as always, and I asked to see the video...I wanna know what's so special that he gets there then what he had with me. I have kept an open mind and in the beginning I did every thing I could to keep it off my mind and just let it alone but I'm done. This will be what ruins our relationship, our family and any ounce of love or respect I still have for him. So please, by all means, enlighten me to how us woman need to have more confidence and let our insecurities go when it has become so shattered because of the porn. Because I will never compare to what those woman look like and I will never be able to be what they are. I'm not included in his fantasy world because those woman are the fantasy, I mean common, let's be honest. As you pointed out, men are visual creatures which in turn means that to some degree they are shallow jerks. If more men would pay attention to their woman and make them feel like they are better then those porn sluts then maybe more woman would stop being so overly conscious and insecure. You make it seem like it is all the woman's fault because she cannot control how she feels but if the situation never would have presented itself woman would not feel that way. Men take zero responsibility for their actions as you and all of the men mentioned here have proven 10fold. You say that we need to control ourselves....then why is it so hard for a man to do the same? But we are shrouded in guilt and blame for being 'overly insecure' and that 'that's the problem, not the porn'. Pretty sure I speak for most woman when I proudly say 'Screw That!'
Hi George,
I agree with you that insecurity and anxiety is a huge problem when it comes to porn for women in a relationship. This is not unfounded however. In my opinion this is ultimately a feminist issue, historically women have been 2nd class citizens and although there is more balance between the sexes now women are still fighting there corners to be heard and considered as equal in many areas of work and home life. Porn is one of those areas. Of course, not everyone's situation is the same but in all my relationships my boyfriends have viewed porn regularly, as have I. I don't watch it anymore because almost every video objectifies women and focuses on pleasure for the male. There isn't much porn that is from the point of view of the female and relates to the female sex phyche. Some studies have shown that women are actually more stimulated visually than men so the biological need for men to view porn isn't an argument here. In my opinion the reason most women will feel bad about their man watching porn is the fact that the industry is not equal and therefor it is something that men can access without knowing what it would feel like to be the other end of it. The double standards.
I think however that society put a lot pf pressure on couples to be partnered and 'at one' in every way without consideration for the need to still keep you individuality. We are all individual sexual beings too and i believe that while a sex life together is important, i will always have, and so the people i am with, a sex life of my own on my own. I think if the porn playing field is evened out there is a chancetherefor couuples to talk about how they both want or dont want to view porn. However, as it is so onesided at the moment it is very difficult for men to understand the women and for women to understand the men. How can you have a conversation about the taste of cherry pie when only one of you has tried it?
One last thing however, life is about a balance. Cherry pie can enhance your quality of life if consumed sparingly but too much will make you fat spotty and greedy.
Life afterall, is about finding a healthy balance, being fair, loving and open.
My husband is addicted to porn. He is looking at it up to 8 hours a day. It has destroyed his ability to be with a real woman. His words not mine. We are separated now and heading for divorce because he was more interested in porn than me and our family life. So far as I care.... you can stick it!
My partner ( not husband) got me to complete a document that l then went to save to his reading list, the list was full of porn sites. When l mentioned it he just said well aren’t everyone’s sites full of porn, like it had put itself there. Don’t know what to think, but am not impressed or happy about it. He just doesn’t answer comments l make, and just moves onto a different subject. He had t said he put them on his reading list or not. I feel like removing them and seeing what he said…..he has always told me there is nothing private on his iPad and that l can access it anytime….l am so confused
I'm sorry, but I'm not sure I understand the notion of "normal marriage". Your idea of it would mean policing individual behaviour to a great extent. I'm not sure that's healthy in the long run.
I'm going to be honest I don't believe 'porn addiction' is a real thing. Canibus can be habit forming but your body doesn't go through withdrawals like heroine. Porn is merely habit forming and when real sex that stays interesting and creative for both partners exist the need for porn diminishes. Guys get bored of porn just like other things when they become predictable. I understand someone in the comments has written some book about male sexuality which might be out of her field of knowledge concidering she is not a male. But everyone should be searching for the truth and not some self serving concept that pervents growth.