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Part 3 of 3 on Porn for Women
It’s no secret that many men are turned on by and enjoy porn.
And when asked and being honest, most of those men will tell you they don’t see a problem with porn.
But what do women think about porn?
Before you read any further, take a moment and consider what you believe most women think about porn.
As with men, women’s opinions about porn can vary. But if you guessed that most women feel somewhere between conflicted about porn and wholly against it, you’d be on the right track.
It shouldn’t be surprising that most women are less interested and accepting of porn. It’s something that most believe sets unrealistic expectations about sex and creates a form of intangible competition for the attention of the men they love.
As you’ll see below, for women the overall effect of porn from a psychological perspective can be very detrimental.
In the last 2 articles, we answered the questions: Do Women Like Porn? And, Do Women Watch Porn?
Now let's hear from some real women and find out what do women think about porn.
Below are excerpts from the comments section of just one of our articles on porn, the majority of which are aimed at examining men and porn.
In response to the article, Why Men Watch Porn, many women have written in to express their opinion and explain how porn makes them feel.
Here is what just a few of those women think about porn and what it does to them when their husbands or boyfriends choose to watch it:
What are you noticing about how these women think and feel about porn?
See any themes here?
So, how do women feel about porn?
These women make it very clear that they feel porn is selfish and dishonest among other things.
It makes them feel like they’re not good enough for their partner and not important enough. They feel betrayed, hurt, and angry.
The impact of porn on a woman’s self-esteem can be devastating. Not to mention the effects it has on the trust and intimacy in their relationship.
While many men feel that porn is a victimless pastime, as you can see, many women will tell you something very different. And it’s these feelings that need to be considered more by the men in their lives.
Porn can be a very touchy subject in relationships. Ultimately, whether it has a place in yours is a personal decision.
But in making that decision, understanding what women really think about porn is crucial.
So, if you’re trying to determine what to do about your porn viewing and if the woman in your life will be (or really is) accepting of it, remember the following things:
For more information related to women and porn, read the first 2 articles in this series and you'll know this isn't what all women think about porn (links are in the Related Articles section below).
But these comments by far represent how the majority of women we work with and hear from at Guy Stuff think and feel about porn.
You can read even more comments from women about porn on these popular posts:
What do you think about porn? Please share your thoughts with others below.
Editor's Note: This post was originally published July 21, 2012, updated on December 12, 2019 and has been updated again with new information for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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Me and my girlfriend almost broke up last week because of porn. The thing is we can only have sex 2 weeks per month (1 week of fertility and you know the other)
So we made a deal even if it was hard for her but she's okay with it.
When we have sex I film stuff with my phone for later use. It's men nature to masturbate, it's like an itch and when you're done you're liberated. You can't stop masturbating, your body rejects it and you don't feel well. So now I have my own porn material from my girlfriend and she feels sexier 🙂
I offered that exact same solution to my husband's porn problem. Seemed like a perfect solution. I would even be kinda turned on to the fact that he was masturbating to videos of me. He said he was VERY interested in the idea but he never pursued it. He continued to watch internet porn and lie to me for two years. Our sex life was lacking... When we had the "right" conversation and he finally admitted to me that he couldn't stop porn without my help he told me that "our own personal porn" isn't a good idea.... He said it would probably trigger old habits and escalate into him watching "other" porn again. He said it was probably better to "cut out" that type of behavior all together. I don't really care if he masturbates if i'm not home (as long as it's not to other women and he saves plenty for me when I DO get home). I think if masturbation is not possible without porn then you don't actually "need" to masturbate. Just thought I would share. Our sex life is getting better every day BTW. And yes we have sex every day if time allows.
I think when it comes to porn it can be come a problem in a relationship if a guy spends more time watching than actually spending real quality time with his wife of girlfriend but if a guy watches it once in a while that's ok but women have to understand watching porn has nothing to do with them not being attractive enough it's all fantasy
Paul, considering how objectifying and degrading most porn is toward women today, I'm don't even understand why a good man would say that looking at porn once in a while is okay.
Also, your statement that a man's porn use has nothing to do with his partner is documentedly false. It's been documented actually that directly after viewing porn, a man has more judgemental and critical things to say of his own partner's body and sexual physical ability then the men who didn't watch porn.
I think what you and other men need to understand that the fact that something is "fantasy" doesn't negate the very real feelings and emotions a woman experiences upon seeing her male partner, the person who is suppose to be most loyal to her, devide his sexual energy among her and other visual images of women so that he can be more sexually satisfied for that brief temporary time until he feels the need to do it again.
Sexual fantasy does not negate wanting something. Infact, sexual fantasy is all about wanting something. And considering the amount of men that try to encourage their female partner to watch porn with them, particpate in sexual acts found in porn, or to dress up and look more like the women in porn, I think it's really crappy for you to actually say that men's porn use has nothing to do with the partner he is in a committed relationship with. It also shows how much you don't even know your own psychology.
I think it's very hard for a lot of men to be bombarded with sexual images all day. Those images are used because they evoke a strong desire in men that can feel insurmountable-even maddening. I'm not trying to make excuses or downplay what women have said on this forum, because men feel the same way. We want to be in love and be better versions of ourselves. I just always have to reiterate how STRONGLY images of women affect us as men. And it's a constant barrage of imagery-the test is relentless and never-ending.
Hi Thomas, I agree that it's hard for men with so much sexual imagery. But, alot of men also seek out the sexual imagery of their own free will. And just as men are constantly bombared with images that show these sexy and fantasy-like images of women, women in turn have to also deal with these images and on top of that, have to deal with the fact that the men they love are looking at these images. Yes, images of women affect men. But images of women affect women too. And they affect us in two ways. They affect us because we know we don't look like those girls and they affect us because we know that our male partners love looking at those girls. And most men.