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Part 3 of 3 on Porn for Women
It’s no secret that many men are turned on by and enjoy porn.
And when asked and being honest, most of those men will tell you they don’t see a problem with porn.
But what do women think about porn?
Before you read any further, take a moment and consider what you believe most women think about porn.
As with men, women’s opinions about porn can vary. But if you guessed that most women feel somewhere between conflicted about porn and wholly against it, you’d be on the right track.
It shouldn’t be surprising that most women are less interested and accepting of porn. It’s something that most believe sets unrealistic expectations about sex and creates a form of intangible competition for the attention of the men they love.
As you’ll see below, for women the overall effect of porn from a psychological perspective can be very detrimental.
In the last 2 articles, we answered the questions: Do Women Like Porn? And, Do Women Watch Porn?
Now let's hear from some real women and find out what do women think about porn.
Below are excerpts from the comments section of just one of our articles on porn, the majority of which are aimed at examining men and porn.
In response to the article, Why Men Watch Porn, many women have written in to express their opinion and explain how porn makes them feel.
Here is what just a few of those women think about porn and what it does to them when their husbands or boyfriends choose to watch it:
What are you noticing about how these women think and feel about porn?
See any themes here?
So, how do women feel about porn?
These women make it very clear that they feel porn is selfish and dishonest among other things.
It makes them feel like they’re not good enough for their partner and not important enough. They feel betrayed, hurt, and angry.
The impact of porn on a woman’s self-esteem can be devastating. Not to mention the effects it has on the trust and intimacy in their relationship.
While many men feel that porn is a victimless pastime, as you can see, many women will tell you something very different. And it’s these feelings that need to be considered more by the men in their lives.
Porn can be a very touchy subject in relationships. Ultimately, whether it has a place in yours is a personal decision.
But in making that decision, understanding what women really think about porn is crucial.
So, if you’re trying to determine what to do about your porn viewing and if the woman in your life will be (or really is) accepting of it, remember the following things:
For more information related to women and porn, read the first 2 articles in this series and you'll know this isn't what all women think about porn (links are in the Related Articles section below).
But these comments by far represent how the majority of women we work with and hear from at Guy Stuff think and feel about porn.
You can read even more comments from women about porn on these popular posts:
What do you think about porn? Please share your thoughts with others below.
Editor's Note: This post was originally published July 21, 2012, updated on December 12, 2019 and has been updated again with new information for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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Every now and then when my husband and I are getting intimate he'll ask if I want to watch porn so I<b> can get in the mood...I'll agree so he doesn't think I'm insecure, but once it starts it's like I start to compare myself and then it turns me off and makes me feel ugly..I've talked to him about how it bothers me and he'll say he's going to stop but then I find out that he's still looking at it and just keeping it a secret..I've learned to not care so much but it's still really hard.
you are not ugly! He is ugly for wanting to watch younger women having sex in order to get an erection to have sex with you! Porn is degrading to women. It makes us feel old, ugly, unattractive, unloved, not good enough! Men who think they can view porn that are married or committed to a person who think it is okay are CRAZY!!!!!! you are KILLING a relationship that could actually be bring you happiness, true love, faithfulness and security until the day you die! but men choose porn...cyber unrealistic erotic bs! guys heres an eye opener for you....if you are not rich....you cannot afford the perfect beautiful YOUNGER women in porn films....you are throwing away someone who truly values and respects you and depends and relys on you as a real person....you are throwing this chance, opportunity , and secure loving future in the trash can over fake girls who are thinking..."They better give me a bonus for this scene!"....don't be a dumb ass and kill someone's love for you over something that is completely FAKE!!!!! IDIOTS!!!
Its not about how young the women are in porn. It is about the sex acts. The man wants sex to be exciting and new in some ways and scheduled sex had the same way is not creative. It seems like the women are focused on comparing themselves to the girl but the guy is turned on by what the girl is willing to do in the movies. He starts thinking my girl is too scared to try something new sexually, she doesn't trust me like this girl in the film trusts this stranger. Your man didn't marry you because he thought you were ugly, and every man would even choose predictable bland sex over 'unrealistic' fake porn. Women see porn as competition, really it should be something to use as a tool to come up with new ideas you feel comfortable doing w your man. The man isn't thinking after watching porn, "my girls ugly now" he's thinking my girl isn't as trusting in me as I thought.
A wife sees porn only as a way for her husband to jerk off to younger, more beautiful women. He’s cheating on her and constantly tries to force her to enjoy his cheating too. It’s spousal abuse….plain and simple. Men are whacked to think any decent woman would view “PORN PROSTITUTES” as anything except what they are….paid whores. It’s such a shame that men are trading true love for slutty, screen prostitutes. They are destroying their families and marriages for these cheap thrills!!!!!
you sre telling the truth here. i am a boy and i didn't know the bad effect of porn but i can see that i would make me feel dissatisfied my my future spouse. thank you so much for you genuine counsel
I'm just wondering why you need to portray other people as crazy and/or idiots. That's no way of trying to learn what life's all about. With or without porn. My two cents.
Many women are turned off to porn and turned off to porn using men. I feel sorry for the women married to a man that they are turned off to.
That is a reality, but then it's interesting that women feel that somehow they have to change this. Many women feel pressured to change how they feel about porn and they try, doing damage to their own values. Women know what turns them on; they just need to have the courage to stand in that and not settle for less. No matter what I do, I can't be turned on by porn, and I'm not attracted to a porn using man right now anyway, so, I find myself alone. Now, this might change but so far, it hasn't so, I don't find myself attracted to very many men.
I wonder if men know how much of a turn off porn is to a lot of women...how turned off women are to men who love porn.
I need to talk to someone about my boyfriend watching porn, we have talked about it, he knows how much it hurts me and what I have been though he tells me all the time he will stop but doesn't, I looked in the history and always porn, now that he knows I know we're yo look he now delets the porn, I need to know what to do about this, I love him but I can't do this anymore. Please help me. Thanks
Why do so many men not care and love their partners? So much so that they are willing to lie for for but not have integrity and respect for their own partners? what in the world is wrong with men?
I decide to break up with my gf after a relationship of 18 months because she caught me watching porn in the next room while she was napping.
She is a bit conservative and over-reactive but I understand her point of view.
I agree online porn is too insidious and intense like pot is now. I realize I will have to seriously lower my dosage of that toxic brain poison. Maybe to o times a month. Somebody else could achieve balance with 5 minutes a month.
It s very dangerous. On many levels.