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Q: Hi -- I suppose our situation is not unique. Just moved in together after being together a year and are at each other's throats. I believe we love each other and want to make it work but we always end up in a fight. I am currently away for a couple of days so he can have some "space." He is not adverse to counseling so I am lucky. How can counseling help us?
--Katie R.
A: Communication is hard for almost all couples. Like most of us, it sounds like you both could use some tools that will help you better talk to each other without it always ending in a fight.
Fights usually are driven by our not feeling understood, respected and loved. But there are ways for you to talk to each other that will make you both feel cared about even when you don't agree. A professional counselor can teach you both how to do this.
When you both can talk to each other so you feel respected and cared about you'll find that the things you used to fight about won't be such a big deal anymore. It's amazing what's possible in a relationship when we treat each other like partners and not enemies.
--Kurt Smith, Marriage Counselor
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