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What Porn Addictions Look Like For The Average Guy

Posted by Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC on Thu, Sep 13, 2012

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Jay is just an average guy -- one of the many guys with porn addictions. But Jay didn't know it. He thought other guys were the ones who had porn addictions, not him. Porn was just a regular part of his life, but not an addiction.

Here's how routine porn addictions can be: Usually after work Jay would come home, grab a beer, and surf the internet to relax for awhile before Charlene would get home with the kids.  Often he'd end up on porn sites. Jay had some favorites that he liked, but buddies would also send him pics and clips from other porn sites too

Jay and Charlene had different sleep routines. She went to bed early, he stayed up late. Jay liked to watch Sports Center on ESPN after Charlene went to bed, but would also channel surf and could easily find something 'entertaining'on Cinemax or Showtime.

Once in a while, the guys at work would go out for a drink after work on Fridays and typically they'd go to a strip club.

Pretty normal guy behavior, he thought. Some of it Charlene knew about, some of it she didn't (find out: Do Women Like Porn?).

What Jay didn't recognize was how much he came to rely on porn to relieve stress, escape, and just to be able to relax. He hadn't noticed how regular it had become.

      • When you have a need for or dependence on porn, that's one of the signs for porn addictions.

He didn't know that porn stimulated his brain and created more and more desire to look at women. He didn't see how the late night cable shows and occasional strip club visit fed his desire to look at porn.

      • When you need to have more and more stimulation, that's one of the signs for addictions to porn.

Jay also couldn't see the affects on his sex life with Charlene -- they would often go long periods without sex, while at other times he wanted sex even more than usual for him, and he pushed Charlene to have sex in ways he'd seen on porn sites.

      • When your sex life is affected by viewing porn, that's one of the signs for porn addictions.

Porn addictions can often look like what many people would describe as pretty normal guy behavior -- most guys just like to look at girls. But when you can see what's going on from the inside, addictions to porn becomes easier to see. If you think you may have a porn addiction, or know someone who may, don't struggle alone. Get some help from a counselor experienced in porn addiction.

 

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