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Q: Do I have a cheating spouse? I found out my husband said he wanted to have sex with a webcam girl in a hotel room. Then he tells me that is just the way people talk on the webcam. Is he telling me the truth? Since they didn’t have sex he says he isn’t a cheating spouse. -- Crystal B.
A: Yes, you have a cheating spouse. Cheating can happen in many ways and doesn’t require sex. Cheating on spouse occurs when a partner goes outside the relationship to meet needs that are supposed to be met by the other partner. Another part of cheating on spouse is lying to and deceiving the other partner.
Your husband is telling you the truth that this is the way people talk on sex webcams, but they don’t say that on regular webcams. You’ve got a cheating husband who may be doing more than just looking at naked women online, so be very careful not to be deceived by his explanations.
Your husband is showing a willingness to do more than look at porn. If you don’t believe that what he’s done so far makes him a cheating spouse, his next move could make him a cheating husband by anyone’s standards.
-- Kurt Smith, Marriage Counselor
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