Midlife Crisis Men Symptoms
Posted by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC on Sat, Dec 10, 2011
What do midlife crisis men look like? Angie’s husband is a midlife crisis man. She asked me if these are midlife crisis symptoms:
--Drinking all the time
--Gambling at the casino every free moment you can get
--Having an affair
--Abandoning your kids, job, and -- oh yea, your wife too
Yes, Angie, these can be midlife crisis symptoms. The behavior of midlife crisis men can definitely look like one or all of these.
This is exactly what her husband, Frank, has been doing for the past 11 months. And no matter how hard Angie tries to understand, she just doesn’t get what happened to her husband.
She says he used to think about others and now is only focused on himself. How do you explain what happened to the man who once packed up the Thanksgiving dinner leftovers and took them to the homeless shelter, but now walks away from his crying kids without a care in the world, she wants to know.
“I just want daddy to live with us. When can daddy live with us?” cried 6-year-old Jaden as she sat in the car. When Frank approached she pleaded, “Daddy come home with us.” Frank ignored her cries for him and quickly kissed her forehead, said goodbye and walked away. Angie believes he was headed to the casino to meet up with the other woman.
Midlife crisis men can definitely have behavior that defies common sense. On the surface it looks crazy, but when you can understand what’s going on on the inside, the illogical behavior can be a little more understandable, even though it still is crazy.
There are a lot of women are like Angie -- struggling to understand their husbands and save their families. Counseling women like her is what we do at Guy Stuff – we’re not just about counseling men. If you’ve got a man with midlife crisis symptoms, read more about midlife crisis men here – midlife crisis.