Soldier Addicted to Porn
Posted by Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC on Sat, Nov 19, 2011
Porn has been a regular part of Jason’s life for as long as he can remember. But he never considered himself addicted to porn. He just never saw it as a problem. How could it be a problem when every guy he knows looks at porn? Now that he’s married, it’s become a big, big problem. And he now sees that he’s addicted to porn.
Jason was in the Army for 8 years, much of it overseas, and has been out for a little more than 2 years. He says in the Army everyone looks at porn. A lot of wives and girlfriends would even email homemade porn of themselves to their soldiers.
Porn isn’t so normal though for Sheri, Jason’s wife of 16 months. She says it makes her really, really upset. It makes her feel insecure too. She even has nightmares about Jason being with other women because of the porn. Ironically, Sheri’s a former model.
Despite having a very attractive wife, Jason has continued to look at porn. Being addicted to porn has caused a huge trust problem between he and Sheri. He’s told her repeatedly that he would stop looking and hasn’t. As a result, she’s suspicious and distrusting of almost everything he tells her.
The stress and strain from the conflict in his marriage finally got to be too much for Jason and it brought him to Guy Stuff to find some solutions. He wanted to learn how he could stop being addicted to porn. He wanted to learn more about using a safety plan he’d read about on our website. And he wanted to rebuild trust with Sheri.
Jason’s made huge progress. With Guy Stuff’s help he hasn’t looked at porn in months. He has a safety plan in place that Sheri’s a partner in. With his taking these steps she’s starting to trust him a little more each day.
If you want porn out of your life, here’s a good place to start addressing porn addiction.