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Inside Look At Pornography Addiction

  
  
  
  

Pornography AddictionPart 1 of 2

Are you a little curious about pornography addiction?

If you're a woman, you most likely are more than just a little curious.  You could be searching for all the information you can get your hands on so you can try to understand why your man has a pornography addiction.

If you're a man, you're probably just a little curious how your addiction to pornography compares to how other men deal with pornography.

At Guy Stuff we work with men who are addicted to porn every day.  We help men overcome porn addiction and help women learn to deal with it.  Just for clarification, women can struggle with addiction to pornography too, but as you'll see below it looks a lot different for most women than it does for men (check out Do Women Like Porn?).

WHAT'S PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION LOOK LIKE?  Good question.  Let's start to look inside with a couple of real-life examples.  All of the excerpts that follow are from the article Porn Addiction Destroys Relationships, Lives published in the San Francisco Chronicle.

  • A 50-year-old married physician views Internet pornography for hours at home, masturbating five to seven times a day, then begins surfing porn sites at the office and risks destroying his career.
  • A woman spends four to six hours a day in Internet chat rooms and having cybersex, and eventually starts arranging to meet online strangers for casual sex in the real world.
  • A man spends many hours a day downloading porn, filling multiple hard drives, and devotes a separate computer just to pornography.
  • A married couple view pornographic movies together as part of their loving relationship, but the husband starts spending more time watching and less time with his wife, who feels left behind and rejected.

You can see from these examples that pornography addiction doesn't just involve men.  Also, like any addiction it can start innocently enough, such as the couple trying to improve their sex life, but it can quickly get out of control.

HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE A PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION?  Specific numbers are hard to come by, but here are some statistics that can give some us idea.

  • The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity estimates that 6 to 8 percent of Americans - or 18 million to 24 million people - are sex addicts. And 70 percent of sex addicts report having a problem with online sexual behavior.
  • ComScore Media Metrix, a company that measures Internet usage, reports that more than 70 percent of men age 18 to 34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month.
  • In 2008, Nielsen Online reported that one-fourth of employees use the Internet to visit porn sites during their workday. Online porn sites report that highest usage is between the hours of 9 a.m. and 5 p.m.

This starts to give you a little bit of a look inside pornography addiction.  Obviously, there's much more to it than this.  In Part 2 of this series we'll look deeper into understanding the causes of addiction to porn.

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Comments

I really don't know what to do I'm 19 and my man is 26 i am very beautiful but my man prefers to see porn instead of being with me. I'm truly fustrated and im planing on leaving him and he only last 5 min in bed i don't know whats going on.would u be able to help me? Please
Posted @ Wednesday, October 17, 2012 7:25 AM by mowla
I'm just an 18 year old single man. but my addiction to porno-graph is very hard...i just can't understand it. sometimes, i tend to stop my self but it seems to be a part of me that i can't just stop it..
Posted @ Saturday, January 26, 2013 8:36 AM by janzkie
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Posted @ Saturday, January 26, 2013 9:45 AM by janzkie
Im 24 my bf is 29 we have been together almost 2 years. Almost this whole,relationship has been full of secrets everytime i turn my head hes doing wrse.i am amlost 5 months pregnant is,makes the situation even wrse. Hes addicted to porn and also pantyhose. He will sit at home and watch pantyhose porn then go.stare at the girls in hooters in their pantyhose by himself. He never wants to have sex and when we do he goes limp or cant cum.i am so depressed i feel like im never good,enough.im also scared he will cheat.i dnt know wat to do. : (
Posted @ Friday, April 26, 2013 9:08 PM by rachel
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