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Are there certain characteristics of midlife crisis men? Yes, I believe specific thoughts and behaviors contribute to midlife crisis in men.
In the first article on midlife crisis men we talked about Derek and Lauren (read out more about Derek here: Mid-life Crisis -- Is My Husband Having One?). One of Lauren's nagging, unanswered questions has always been why didn't Derek say or do something sooner?
Let's take a closer look at Derek and see if we can get a better idea of why he didn't. Here are a few characteristics of Derek that have contributed to his having a mid-life crisis (these are Lauren's realizations and words, and have come from out of her women's counseling at Guy Stuff):
Here are a couple of additional things I've noticed about Derek's actions and how he's handled is unhappiness that are also descriptive of midlife crisis men:
Can you relate to Derek in any way? How about Lauren and having a husband like Derek? Being unhappy like Derek is not unusual and can be fixed. Sadly, many men think a lot like Derek and try to fix their unhappiness with the same thinking and actions that caused it. Midlife crisis men often create their mid-life crisis.
Don't be a Derek. Get some help.
More Mid-life Crisis Reading:
* This is the second article of two discussing midlife crisis men. Read out more about Derek and Lauren in the first article: Mid-life Crisis -- Is My Husband Having One? Sign-up for our Blog on the right and get other great articles on men and relationships like this one.
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