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Malcolm and Janine went at each other again. They said they couldn't remember how it started. What struck me was how it ended.
As Janine was crying and Malcolm yelling, their 4 year old daughter, Brielle, came over with their wedding photo that hangs above her bed. She held it out to them, grabbed their legs and pulled them back together.
The fear our kids feel when we attack their mom or dad is like an earthquake to their world. Sadly, Janine and Malcolm had convinced themselves that it wasn't that bad for Brielle.
So how do we fight around our kids? We don't. Dr. Phil says that when we fight in front of our kids we're attacking our kids. Here's a page from his website with some tips on how to Avoid Fighting in Front of the Kids. And here's his first 3 suggestions:
We all struggle with not letting our emotions get the best of us around our kids. So take a quick glance over Dr. Phil's list and find an idea you can start to practice.
If you need help getting started, that's okay. We all need marriage help sometimes. Just contact a professional counselor.
What do you think is the hardest part about not fighting in front of our kids? Share your thoughts below.
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